I'm not the kind to dip my hand into a seemingly placid lava pool, but here we go, I'll say a thing or two.
I'm not a forum veteran (I almost always found such spaces to be terribly repellent) but in the time I've been here people have both agreed and disagreed with me with the utmost level of decency and even, dare I say, gentleness, a word we rarely ever associate with the internet.
I am, in fact a very passionate individual, sometimes to a fault, although I have forced myself to temper this throughout my life. It is my personal belief that the correct way to treat the internet, as far as human relations go, as indistinguishable from "meatspace", if you'll allow me the gall to borrow from cyberpunk for a moment.
Based on that reasoning, we all have our own feelings, our own sets of beliefs and our reasoning to maintain said beliefs, be they as they may, current, outdated, in tune, out of tune, they are still definers of the self.
Why are people so poor at discussing sensitive topics? it's because we, as a species, cannot, for the most part separate a topic from an opinion and we further fail by being mostly unable to separate the topic and opinion from the self. Is that correct and rational? no, but it is nigh on inevitable, because they are core values.
The people that CAN make this separation and go about their lives peacefully, still respecting and caring for their perceived dissenter is the absolute minority among our species, and such people need to be cherished.
Discussions borne from controversy, or leaning towards it - politics, gender, equality and other topics will definitely flare up, since we've come a long way since the baby steps of the then-reemerging industry after the crash. Video games today are large, powerful, sweeping; they absolutely are going to be used to push agendas, we have to live with this, and this has been true for all forms of art.
Despite this, it is my profound and honest belief that very few here would want to see others' feelings hurt, their selves and values invalidated. What we have here, birthed from a common hobby, is a golden ratio of people that are willing to give others space, and expect, in turn, to have their space respected.
The true key to this mystery is intent, and those of ill intent will often betray themselves.
I love you all.