Mental health thread

[Deleted member 884]

"The circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant.
It is what you do with the gift of life that defines who you are."
What I'm saying is:
It doesn't matter if you're a middle class citizen, a poor homeless person, or whatever.
If you want to help them, then do it.

Not every life is a gift.

 

[fake-kun]

"The circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant.
It is what you do with the gift of life that defines who you are."
What I'm saying is:
It doesn't matter if you're a middle class citizen, a poor homeless person, or whatever.
If you want to help them, then do it.

I suppose it's true.

 

[OmegaPunch's icon OmegaPunch OmegaPunch]

Not every life is a gift.

Like I said:
It's what you do with it that defines who you are.

 

[Deleted member 884]

Like I said:
It's what you do with it that defines who you are.

Nah, my life was useless since the first day, it's just that I didn't know it yet, nor it was clear.

 

[Yousef]

Lately, I've had a vague feeling that I'm a bad person for leading a comfortable middle class existence when there are people out there who don't even have a roof over their heads.

Yeah man, this haunts me a couple of times too. It’s why I lead a life style of giving as much as I can. Even an ounce of kindness can mean the world to someone, as it would to me.

 

[Samatonic Samatonic]

Nah, my life was useless since the first day, it's just that I didn't know it yet, nor it was clear.

Take small steps. Later they turn to giant Leaps.
Even a flower takes time to bloom the fullest. When the time is right.
Trust me, you'll be there.

 

[Yousef]

"The circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant.
It is what you do with the gift of life that defines who you are."
What I'm saying is:
It doesn't matter if you're a middle class citizen, a poor homeless person, or whatever.
If you want to help them, then do it.

That’s a pretty blanket statement. We can’t control our circumstances but we can control how we react to it.

 

[Samatonic Samatonic]

Yeah man, this haunts me a couple of times too. It’s why I lead a life style of giving as much as I can. Even an ounce of kindness can mean the world to someone, as it would to me.

Praise the One who gave you that life. You are technically repaying it bit by bit by doing the right thing. Remember that.

 

[Kamako]

I suppose it's true.

Charity starts at home. If you're not in a good position yourself, how are you supposed to be strong for anyone else?
People have their own agency. You can't fight everyone's battle for them. The best thing you can do for others is to be the best version of yourself. That way when the times comes, you've got the strength and means to make a difference. Even if that's just cracking a smile.
Also, guilt is a natural feeling. It's good that you can recognise and process it.

 

[Yousef]

Charity starts at home. If you're not in a good position yourself, how are you supposed to be strong for anyone else?
People have their own agency. You can't fight everyone's battle for them. The best thing you can do for others is be the best version of yourself. That way when the times comes, you've got the strength and means to make a difference. Even if that's just cracking a smile.
Also, guilt is a natural feeling. It's good that you can recognise and process it.

I’m not really sure if that’s what fake meant. I believe I’ve been in a similar position to him and it’s better to describe it as generally hoping people finding resolution in their lives and ending up in a better place in the long run.

 

[Kamako]

I’m not really sure if that’s what fake meant. I believe I’ve been in a similar position to him and it’s better to describe it as generally hoping people finding resolution in their lives and ending up in a better place in the long run.

I took that as a given - I already assumed Fake was rooting for people, not against them. I read the issue as him either feeling that he wasn't struggling enough, or doing enough to support others. Sorry if I misread either of you.

 

[OmegaPunch's icon OmegaPunch OmegaPunch]

That’s a pretty blanket statement. We can’t control our circumstances but we can control how we react to it.

Yes, that's what I was trying to say.

 

[ShanaFlameHaze]

Not here to went, but I will share with you my life journey in hopes that it may inspire and help others to overcome their darkest moments.

When I was a kid, I was extremely shy and filled with anxiety. To the point of not being able to hold a conversation with anyone else but my parents. It was really unpleasant, I could not even go to a store and was constantly bullied throughout the whole time I was in school. People that were my "friends" were bullying and making fun of me.

But, at a certain moment, something changed. I realized I don't need these fake friends that were bullying me. I completely dropped everyone from my life and focused on improving myself. Each day, little by little I became more confident. I trained my mind and body in complete isolation. The only people I would interact with were my parents, but even then just for essential matters. Video games and anime were my only companions in this period. It may seem childish, but I learned a lot from fictional characters and helped me develop. Some of them served as my role model (Zack Fair from Crisis Core Final Fantasy)

This took me many years, but eventually I got at a decent enough level that I could take care of myself. I have gained some confidence and self-esteem, but along the way I lost the ability and will to make new human connections. But slowly I have been able to make new friends and generally better connect with those around me.

TL;DR: Moral of the story is that if someone like me who had 0 confidence and was bullied constantly for half of his life can turn his life around, I believe that you can too! Just take small steps every day, improve yourself little by little and you will reach your goal! If that is not possible, at least try to make the most of your life. Life is extremely limited and fragile, so try to enjoy it as much as you can!

 

[Samatonic Samatonic]

Not here to went, but I will share with you my life journey in hopes that it may inspire and help others to overcome their darkest moments.

When I was a kid, I was extremely shy and filled with anxiety. To the point of not being able to hold a conversation with anyone else but my parents. It was really unpleasant, I could not even go to a store and was constantly bullied throughout the whole time I was in school. People that were my "friends" were bullying and making fun of me.

But, at a certain moment, something changed. I realized I don't need these fake friends that were bullying me. I completely dropped everyone from my life and focused on improving myself. Each day, little by little I became more confident. I trained my mind and body in complete isolation. The only people I would interact with were my parents, but even then just for essential matters. Video games and anime were my only companions in this period. It may seem childish, but I learned a lot from fictional characters and helped me develop. Some of them served as my role model (Zack Fair from Crisis Core Final Fantasy)

This took me many years, but eventually I got at a decent enough level that I could take care of myself. I have gained some confidence and self-esteem, but along the way I lost the ability and will to make new human connections. But slowly I have been able to make new friends and generally better connect with those around me.

TL;DR: Moral of the story is that if someone like me who had 0 confidence and was bullied constantly for half of his life can turn his life around, I believe that you can too! Just take small steps every day, improve yourself little by little and you will reach your goal! If that is not possible, at least try to make the most of your life. Life is extremely limited and fragile, so try to enjoy it as much as you can!

 

[ShanaFlameHaze]

Today is literally the first day I interacted with you but I feel like I already knew you for a while.
(It's probably because I was reading through the 'date' thread and saw a lot of your posts there)

 

[Samatonic Samatonic]

Today is literally the first day I interacted with you but I feel like I already knew you for a while.
(It's probably because I was reading through the 'date' thread and saw a lot of your posts there)

 

[Leiioo]

"The circumstances of one's birth are irrelevant.
It is what you do with the gift of life that defines who you are."
What I'm saying is:
It doesn't matter if you're a middle class citizen, a poor homeless person, or whatever.
If you want to help them, then do it.

I totally agree with this. You, on a purely rational level, have nothing to feel ashamed or guilty over for being in a better place than others might be. As for on an emotional level, smaller actions might be able to help ease your feelings of guilt. Stuff like signing up to donate to a charity, that deals with the subject matter that makes you feel guilty? Just remember, don't overdo it, and be cognizant that you in reality aren't guilty of anything.

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Nah, my life was useless since the first day, it's just that I didn't know it yet, nor it was clear.

I feel like this sometimes too. I know it's a tired old thing to hear, but I'm sure there's someone out there that gets a smile on their face when you talk to them, even if they're silly strangers on the internet. We all lead different lives in different places, but everyone deserves kindness and compassion. You do too. You deserve kindness from yourself, as well. Sending a digital hug.

 

[GardeniaSky's icon GardeniaSky GardeniaSky]

Hmm.

I have diagnosed Bipolar....and all but diagnosed Autism Spectrum Disorder[had a full psych assessment done, guy referred me for ASD testing since we ruled out ADHD, but insurance doesn't cover ASD testing over 21, so here we are].

Idk. I struggled socially and academically all through school. My parents punished me for both. We went to a family psych, the psych said 'hey, your kid is depressed, I'm gonna refer to you a specialist", my parents said 'they don't know what they're talking about' among other things I won't mention because yeah.

I'm 33 now, finally pretty stable. I was borderline homeless pretty frequently until a few years ago. Parents booted me at 17 because I was underperforming in life, and didn't want to deal with it I guess? I stayed with friends, slept with guys here and there for a place to crash, had issues with drug and alcohol abuse, ruined friendships because of my unmanaged and raging Bipolar symptoms...was generally a bad person. I'd steal stuff, boyfriends, you name it, just to get by.

I had my daughter 8 years ago, finally snapped, called my biological dad who lives in a completely different state. he told me to get help, so I did.

It's really validating to have medical professionals tell me that there's a legitimate reason I struggle so much with even the most mundane things. I've never been able to properly hold down a job. I always get burnt out, end up calling off or just stop showing up. I've never been self-sufficient financially. I can cook and clean and take care of the kid, but that's about it.

Now that I've word vomited my tragic and edgy back story, I'd like to say that video games have always been a grounding tool for me. Not an escape, but a way to regulate and center myself. Ever since I was young, before my symptoms really started hurting me and my ability to navigate my day-to-day, I was always fascinated with video games. It's been a lifelong hyperfixation, and I don't see myself growing out of it any time soon.

And I'm doing a lot better now. I have a great therapist and psych, I have a great partner and friends that have been exceptionally supportive through the recent years. I'm still working out the kinks with my medication. I'm on a new one, and I still feel the Bipolar 'crash' poking through on occasion, as well as a tiny bit of those manic highs, but I'm doing so much better. I can say I'm actually pretty content.

I'm still living with that constant fear that I'm going to have to 'pack up and leave' at some point. I don't know if that's ever going to go away. I spent over a decade of my life in survival mode, and I don't know if a person ever unlearns that.

I don't want to be like, that person that spouts platitudes and shit, but there were a lot of times that I hit rock bottom. A lot of bad days, a lot of bad people, bad decisions.

It can get better. It takes a really long time sometimes, and you might still have bad days, but you can't give up. Even if that voice in your head is saying nasty things, that's not wholly you. I don't know how to convey this...I'm really bad at verbalizing/putting my thoughts down when it comes to the complicated stuff...

The bad brain parts, you have to peel them away. You have to put them in a box, and deal with the box. You can't throw the box out, but you can get better at dealing with the box. you can get better at storing the box, organizing the box, navigating the box. The box is always going to be a part of you, but you don't have to just let the box spill out and clutter everything else. you might need medicine for the box, or you might just need to talk about the box. Both are valid ways to deal with the box, but you can't just ignore the box. And don't let the box eat you. Don't feed the box. If the box is too big it won't fit, and you'll be all box. We don't want to be all box, because we're more than that.

 

[CargoRoms]

I really wanna punch my past self in the face, for not doing the right thing, by quitting socials, while I still could, and choose digital minimalism, for my mental health's sake.

Should done that at least back in 2020. Because, no matter how I hard I tried, 5 years later, all my efforts in wanting to be a known online creative, were for nothing.

Better late than never, I guess. The FOMO was very unhealthy. Everyone forgot how to take things slow and steady.

 

[Antilocal123]

I forgot this thread existed.

GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA ITS BAD FOR YOU, IF ANY OF YOU ARE DEALING WITH ITS EFFECTS PLEASE TAKE A BREAK FROM IT!

 

[PrismRed]

One thing I can say is stop comparing yourself to others, everyone has their own standard on what happiness and success is. You will NEVER gonna be contend with yourself if you set your goals based on other people's.
Accept that someone else was born lucky (by your standard) and we are not (by your standard), but if we chose to wallow in our sad (by your standard) existence without doing anything, then nothing gonna change for the better.
If someone else call you stupid, useless, etc. they're calling you that 'cause they're looking at it from THEIR point of view, they don't know shit, I don't know shit, nobody knows shit about you except YOU, so start by judging yourselves from YOUR own of view, fuck the rest. In fact fuck this post that I made if it doesn't resonate with you, take life by your own hands! Be the King and Queen of yourself!

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What the heck did I just post?

 

[SageoThyme]

I have some real problems sometimes with the idea of how people see me. I basically am very self critical of standards that I think people set for me but generally come from me. I place others happiness above mine to the point that one of my friends has told me that my doing that ruins their happiness.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's icon RanmyakuIchi RanmyakuIchi]

I have some real problems sometimes with the idea of how people see me. I basically am very self critical of standards that I think people set for me but generally come from me. I place others happiness above mine to the point that one of my friends has told me that my doing that ruins their happiness.

I get this a lot too, the impossible self-expectations and imposter syndrome. It's hard to deal with sometimes, but what helps me is just trying to remember that others on the outside looking in don't get hung-up on small mistakes or hiccups like we do with ourselves.

I understand what you mean about putting other people before yourself as well. I've done this a few times with people that proceeded to overstep boundaries afterward and had to cut them off. I feel pretty awful about it as I know it could have been avoided if I put my foot down earlier instead of trying to people please.

 

[SageoThyme]

I get this a lot too, the impossible self-expectations and imposter syndrome. It's hard to deal with sometimes, but what helps me is just trying to remember that others on the outside looking in don't get hung-up on small mistakes or hiccups like we do with ourselves.

I understand what you mean about putting other people before yourself as well. I've done this a few times with people that proceeded to overstep boundaries afterward and had to cut them off. I feel pretty awful about it as I know it could have been avoided if I put my foot down earlier instead of trying to people please.

Thanks matey, just things I gotta work at...just wish the process was easy..like we all do

 

[Deleted member 884]

Anxiety is like oxygen for me, I can't live without it. Nor can I imagine my life without it.
One of the worst feelings is thinking you need to eat even if you have or need to.