I am still shocked to see the negative reception towards Discord, when I continue to say that it's your experience that depends on if the platform is good or not. Discord Nitro is most of the issues within Discord without mentioning the groomers, and "Discord moderators" that swarm the site. Discord Nitro isn't even that bad in comparison to something like X Premium where they LITERALLY take key features on what was made prior to the change from Twitter to X (I'm referring to everyone being able to make a community and the entirety of TweetDeck). The best that I can complain about Discord is the only thing that I can relate to when the fact that communities of any media are prone to be more toxic on there than any other platform. But there's a reason: minors. Minors primarily use Discord as the go to communication site, and guess what happens when you have a site where most of your player base is minors; stuff happens. Mostly inappropriate stuff.
If you want a good Discord server, all that it takes is always appropriate moderation. Of course, this doesn't mean hiring a bunch of strict mods that will go out of their way to ban other people for no reason, but to have people who are willing to moderate accordingly. Before I used to think that making your family/friends admins/mods were a bad idea because it can immediately be saying that you're cherry picking who assists you in the cleanliness of you sever, but now I understand why: Loyalty. Giving such a role to someone you know is not going to get the job done, and I believe the most crucial factor in maintaining a good one is the owner themself. I think that if they were people like Spike, the place would be a wonderful place. You could also say that limiting the server to 16+ is already good enough as most places have that as the minimum age requirement for the place, and while 18+ could be wonderful (like my personal server), it's in practice because whenever a kid sees an 18+ discord, they'll be curious to know what's inside of it because it's something that they cannot have access to through obvious normal means.