Were you allowed to go out a lot as a teen?

[SamanthaSamantha's icon]

I guess that the wonderful thing about time and distance is that they allow you to put everything in perspective.

My older sister was never allowed to go out to party, despite being VERY popular and travelling everywhere with a huge group (something our parents were always drilling into us — "safety in numbers" and all that jazz).

(But of course she snuck out like the badass she was).

I always found that very odd, because, well, I was the exact opposite and got an equally flipped treatment.

I had always been very sedentary, but that got into overdrive once puberty hit — I could remain as motionless as furniture and only speak in monosyllables for days if need be. It drove our folks crazy.

As expected, my dad didn't take too kindly to this "vampire act" and started ambushing me whenever I would be returning from school (my one non-escapable "outing") — he'd allow only the bare minimum of bathroom breaks, hand me a water bottle, and tell me, in no uncertain terms, that I would not be allowed back "until moonlight or hypothermia".

At the time, I thought it was an extreme violation of my freedom and boundaries, but I eventually got used to it because I was blessed with living in a very walkable area full of great sights to experience.

Considering the fact that I now work outdoors all day AND am as happy as can be doing it, you can say that I have long started seeing the value in such "tough love" tactics.

But he could never get me into night clubs — that was my last stand and the hill I chose to die on.

What was your experience?

 

[DjQuick2008]

never told my parents if i was cycling miles away which i did lol.

 

[Aldia Aldia]

I was actually, but I never did that much. Most of my hangouts are planned, and I don't like to just mindlessly stroll across town.

 

[DjQuick2008]

I was actually, but I never did that much. Most of my hangouts are planned, and I don't like to just mindlessly stroll across town.

i was sheltered and still got up to mad shit

 

[LiberoVulpesLiberoVulpes's icon]

Yes, I just didn't like to.

Tinkering with things and reading at home was what I preferred.

 

[SamanthaSamantha's icon]

never told my parents if i was cycling miles away which i did lol.

At one point, my dad forced a disgrace of a bike upon me — it was rusted through, the velocities wouldn't trigger and the chain fell off more than once.

I'm still not sure if incompetence or draconian punishment lol.

 

[Sheepy765]

I was allowed to go out, but I didn’t outside of going to friends’ houses for D&D.

 

[Burzuru Burzuru]

i never went out a whole lot back then, but im certain they wouldn't have been too concerned about it.

 

[lestagio]

Yeah, but mostly because I was too lame to get up to anything mischievous. I was either in town or in one my 2 friend's houses, lol. And I generally liked doing stuff at home, so I didn't leave much anyway

 

[ZEGA ZONICZEGA ZONIC's icon]

No. (No as in that's my answer.)

 

[shaggi]

I was allowed to go out as long as i returned before dark. I never said where i was going and my parents never asked where i had been.

 

[iamthemilkman]

I was always out skateboarding on the weekdays, then I'd be at the mall, concerts, parties, friends and girlfriends houses, etc., on the weekends. As long as I did my homework and got good grades, my parents didn't care.

 

[azurax]

I grew up very sheltered. I was monitored a LOT during my early teens
But by late teens, I would make plans and hang out with my friends. Any outing with friends required permission.
But outings with my siblings were/are very much encouraged by my parents.

 

[ArchienineArchienine's icon]

I suppose so? I go outside if i have to buy something and they don't care too much.