my opinion/take on why women and men, are forgetting how to interact with each other

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I can't imagine using dating app... It feels like "far future thing" that you order an item from grocery shop and its location shown on map so you can get it... Weird shit.

Long story short I don't think this kind of dating will happen anymore regardless of culture, because dating even became part of peer pressure more than ever. Imagine at this age, when dating is "so easy" thanks to internet people would make fun of you if you found ugly and not so sexy person for your date in "today's standard". My observation is instead of a life companion to partnerup with people look for an ATM and pornstar shit more than ever, perhaps not because people around them would make fun of them otherwise but most importantly things became a compitation more than ever. When I was a kid sitting with my mother and her friends I did listen a lot about how they talk behind people and make fun of them becauce "her husband doesn't even work for government, so they have no future" and "my daughter wanna merry to a random punk, why she can't find a doctor" shit. Perhaps because of that, I mean because I had no care to work for government and be a doctor or something I grew up into thinking "romance is not my shit". I'm a man and I'm like the next guy but honestly I don't care about romance and shit, I value friendship more instead. Romance can be good but it's optional just as eating a cake for me, yet doesn't mean I wouldn't cheerish me cake lolol. In that regard perhaps it's peer preasure that pushes kids these days into thinking "you are inferior without a love life" so IDK they may push each other to dating apps and shit. It was good that my generation wasn't infected by thought virus internet spreads, their "BS" was enough for me already!!!

Fair my observation were from my generation of the workplace and the people I talk to. It don't have to like this dating space either but there's little push other than older generations of why can't you just be happy, go to church and find someone, or maybe if you smiled more people would approach you. No one has the right solution and no one has the right idea on how to nurture it or wants to put effort in it because being comfortable is the highest concern than uncomfortably and I know I'm also a part of that problem.
 
When I was a kid sitting with my mother and her friends I did listen a lot about how they talk behind people and make fun of them becauce "her husband doesn't even work for government, so they have no future" and "my daughter wanna merry to a random punk, why she can't find a doctor" shit. Perhaps because of that, I mean because I had no care to work for government and be a doctor or something I grew up into thinking "romance is not my shit".
There's a lot of that sort of toxicity in my family and I can't stand it::sailor-embarrassed I think that has had some negative effect on the way I view people & relationships too.
Not that I think like them, but so many people I know do that shit behind people's backs.
I know not everyone is like that, but I worry about surrounding myself with people like that. It's important to talk with & listen to your partner, but I don't want to be around people who only tear everybody else down.
It's one of the reasons I don't like being around my family much anymore. ::cirnoshrug
 
Fair my observation were from my generation of the workplace and the people I talk to. It don't have to like this dating space either but there's little push other than older generations of why can't you just be happy, go to church and find someone, or maybe if you smiled more people would approach you. No one has the right solution and no one has the right idea on how to nurture it or wants to put effort in it because being comfortable is the highest concern than uncomfortably and I know I'm also a part of that problem.
Oh well, the workplace is worse in that regard. I did work in many places, and because work is life people become your "another family" then naturally they are curious about you. So people always wonder "why you don't marry" and they don't even believe my answer: "I don't care, romance and sexual stuff is not my thing", and they misunderstand and put words into my mouth. They believe I like to get laid with random women (I don't care), I'm afraid of married life (I wouldn't), I'm gay (most popular rumour lol)... And then I sense being "backup husband" for some women for in case they will be left with kids and without a husband which is a big deal thing every men gotta prepare for. I actually had a good friendship with a woman until she dropped the bomb and said "do you think I will let us stay as friend forever and die" and then she tried to explain what she does in something about my field "you are a company and I'm an investor investing on you" and then it was hard to explain her why she is a good friend and cannot be something else because "we didn't have another vibe". It would be an insult to say to a woman you don't see her as a good wife and potentially good mother for your kids, I tried to explain but she did misunderstand. Her pride was hurt so much she started to say "I had the biggest breasts in my class" (like I care lol) and whatever she did made me understand her and further made me be distant from her and stay as friends for sure. The big problem in romance is not can't find the right person, or they have "red flags" or something. I was in love once so I understand the fundamental problem: You love this person but these feelings are not mutual, and for some people it's rocket science to understand because most people believe once you love a person you are like "free car" so "it would be stupid to reject me". When I did experience the same and she rejected me I thought "well friendship is better anyway but I'm glad I learned the answer". In that regard the emotion for loves evolve into other emotions as people grow up because life gets complex, people start to have insecurity about future of their life especially as a lone person, it gets worse as you have kids and your marriage seems like a titanic.

For a few times already lots of women who was my old classmates who never even cared about my existence dig my life to learn about me, find my phone number to call me "how are you?" and "I wonder how much you make every month" and then they try to subtly be friendly to wanna get married or they just go straight to the point and mention "I heard you were never married so you are available" and then drama starts "don't leave me alone without a husband and father for my 3 kids!!!" and I'm like "dude I don't care" lol. And let's not talk about the day dudes in my workplace had a surprise "manly party" for me to "get warmed to the idea of sexual life!!!" but "It's not my thing" is not an answer for them lolol.

BTW wow, I never wrote that much serious message here before!!! It doesn't suit me!!!:

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what i am going to say, is my own, unfiltered opinion, it aint toxic masculinity or anything, everyone has his own way, of flirting with women, i aint trying to brag, or make anyone, feel offended, just wanted to be clear

i am hearing from friends saying, that either men dont hit on women, like they used to do, or women are to ''prideful'' to make the first move, and dont want to ruin their ego, by giving a chance to a gai, she deep inside, likes, and always awaits from him to make the first move

now, body language hints, exist, they social cues, they hints, that women give, when they want men to approach them, most of the times though, most of the doods, cant get them signs, and they mistake them, if you pay attention to her, from the way she looks, plays with her hair, points at you, even the way, she speaks at you, the tone, and all, you can clearly tell, if she is into you, after all, you need the attraction, the spark, when you desire someone

first its outer appearance, lets not joke ourselves, after that, if you decide to be with each other and get in a relationship, then you learn, his personality, inner character/traits, etc

most of the times, i make the first move, its 2 options, you score, or you get denied, even before being in relationships with chicks, i got denied, several times, so what? and? life goes, i move on, so simple, it needs lot of exercise, but confidence and inner willpower, are real, you need to not be clingy, you need to be strong, for you first, and trust me, women like it too, when a man, even at his worst, can still stay chill/focused

back to the topic, why women are wasting a good chance of finding someone they like, by denying it, and waiting for the dood to approach first, like, each of us, dont own each other, anything, from the first moment, the eyes connect, you will get it, if the attraction exists

just like how chicks, like a normal and proper approach, thats how men like from women as well, not the cringe, not the creepy approach

flirt, like a proper human, day game exists, if you learn how interacting looks like, it aint disturbing to go to somebody, and say hi, or introduce yourself, if u notice, the hints are positive, thats why the saying, learn to read the room, exists

gotta say, the past 5 years after the cvirus, it became downgrade on that part, because, most of the people, find affect on the internet, on a fake reality, and trying to find peace on lies

so yeah, a good flirt, always can make us, feel good, or flattered, for both genders, that goes

i know, life aint easy, its difficult for each of us, but you can find ways to make it easier, internet is just a ''hobby'', we must learn to live, in reality

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Everyone is just using hedonism for personal gain or just swindle people anyway because they are a trained scumbag lol it really nothing than just a "blind date" or "next time on cheaters" crazyshitdotcom edition. just a bunch of mofos fish and fishermen alike or not just doing nothing than poising the water they drink before they dig their own ditches or piss on another lake or river.

whatever we value is made up by humankind...(i hope the word of god is not tampered with). do you ever get the feeling that whatever you care about just nothing more than just bait hanging above your head while it's 5 ft away from you? that's what people don't realize these days.

you should check out j-hall on youtube and individuals who frankly marry fictional women these days.
 
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Everyone is just using hedonism for personal gain or just swindle people anyway because they are a trained scumbag lol it really nothing than just a "blind date" or "next time on cheaters" crazyshitdotcom edition. just a bunch of mofos fish and fishermen alike or not just doing nothing than poising the water they drink before they dig their own ditches or piss on another lake or river.

whatever we value is made up by humankind...(i hope the word of god is not tampered with). do you ever get the feeling that whatever you care about just nothing more than just bait hanging above your head while it's 5 ft away from you? that's what people don't realize these days.

you should check out j-hall on youtube and individuals who frankly marry fictional women these days.

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time to lock this thread, very few of you, caught the meaning, nothing more, nothing less

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all good, we move on
 
BTW wow, I never wrote that much serious message here before!!! It doesn't suit me!!!:

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I know that feel, mainly with family. The workplace is a bit more respectful in letting me be single without questioning. Except for the older ladies: what is wrong with you? Video games have ruined you for marriage life, Are you just going to wait for a man to approach you? Why don't you put yourself out there and smile? Are you gay and that's why you're friends with every new guy? You're not getting any younger wasting away here, find yourself a man soon.

It's exhausting having so much expectation thrown at you when it before they never take in the fact you're happy right now and if you find someone great. They weren't needed to be the endgame to your happiness but as nice company to enjoy your happiness with.
 
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