Mental health thread

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Btw how can I tell people irl how I feel while being introvert and having aspergers?

 

[Kamako]

Btw how can I tell people irl how I feel while being introvert and having aspergers?

After greeting them, say something like: "I am introverted and have Asperger's, and I find it difficult to express how I feel". You can add "Please excuse me if I seem closed off", if you feel it necessary.

You can also write it out in text on your mobile, and then hand it to them, if speaking aloud is difficult.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

After greeting them, say something like: "I am introverted and have Asperger's, and I find it difficult to express how I feel". You can add "Please excuse me if I seem closed off", if you feel it necessary.

You can also write it out in text on your mobile, and then hand it to them, if speaking aloud is difficult.

Too abrupt

 

[Kamako]

Too abrupt

I don't think so personally. But if you feel otherwise, that's fine. Express yourself to them however you feel best articulates your thoughts and feelings.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

I don't think so personally. But if you feel otherwise, that's fine. Express yourself to them however you feel best articulates your thoughts and feelings.

I almost never talk to my friends outside of school and homework stuff btw

 

[Kamako]

I almost never talk to my friends outside of school and homework stuff btw

That's fine too. People have different emotional needs. Some people get very clingy and attached and feel that they must spend all their time around other people, and others are happier in isolation. As long as your preferences are clear, there should be no friction.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

That's fine too. People have different emotional needs. Some people get very clingy and attached and feel that they must spend all their time around other people, and others are happier in isolation. As long as your preferences are clear, there should be no friction.

Yeah but people online always tell me to tell someone irl about my issues

 

[Kamako]

Yeah but people online always tell me to tell someone irl about my issues

Being honest about how you feel and what you want makes people more likely to understand you and can enable them to meet your needs.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Being honest about how you feel and what you want makes people more likely to understand you and can enable them to meet your needs.

What if I keep rejecting the same advice?

 

[Kamako]

What if I keep rejecting the same advice?

Then you will likely get the same results.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Then you will likely get the same results.

I meant that the same people in a forum that I am in keep giving me the same advice over and over again and I still reject it

 

[Kamako]

I meant that the same people in a forum that I am in keep giving me the same advice over and over again and I still reject it

That's what I was referring to: If you keep following the same course of action (i.e., rejecting the same advice and continuing the same course of action), then you are likely to continue experiencing the same results (i.e., your situation will remain unchanged).

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

That's what I was referring to: If you keep following the same course of action (i.e., rejecting the same advice and continuing the same course of action), then you will likely to continue experiencing the same results (i.e., your situation will remain unchanged).

Then what do I do? Shut the fuck up?

 

[Kamako]

Then what do I do? Shut the fuck up?

That's one option.

Another is that you try to implement some of the advice you have been given, slowly over time, and document whether you see or feel any change to your wellbeing.

Another option is you keep asking for the same advice, and you continue to reject it, or choose not to implement it.
In which case, things are unlikely to change for you.
Hence why I said "You will likely see the same results", when you asked "What if I keep rejecting the same advice?"

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

That's one option.

Another is that you try to implement some of the advice you have been given, slowly over time, and document whether you see or feel any change to your wellbeing.

Another option is you keep asking for the same advice, and you continue to reject it, or choose not to implement it.
In which case, things are unlikely to change for you.
Hence why I said "You will likely see the same results", when you asked "What if I keep rejecting the same advice?"

Ok but I don't wanna tell people irl how I feel and I don't wanna meditate either

 

[Kamako]

Ok but I don't wanna tell people irl how I feel and I don't wanna meditate either

Then don't. But if your situation does not change, you may need to try telling people irl how you feel, or meditating, to see some different results.

It may result in positive change, it may not. But those two actions (talking to people in person and meditation/mindfulness) have been known to work for others (including me, on occasion), so they may also work for you, too.

 

[Tonberry]

Minor rant:
I'm getting really fucking annoyed with my tinnitus right now. I'm still going thru the process I wrote about earlier, but the added tension, and probably the heart rate too is affecting my tinnitus in a new way so I have to listen to it and since it's not a sound I'm accustomed too it's insanely intrusive.

 

[Kamako]

Minor rant:
I'm getting really fucking annoyed with my tinnitus right now. I'm still going thru the process I wrote about earlier, but the added tension, and probably the heart rate too is affecting my tinnitus in a new way so I have to listen to it and since it's not a sound I'm accustomed too it's insanely intrusive.

That doesn't sound like a fun time TonnyB. I hope it subsides for you sooner than later.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Btw I can't stop mentally saying that killing bad/hated people and stupids will make me a good person

 

[Cantarella]

lately, I've been having a really hard time lately contending with stuff that has happened in the past two years for me. Just constant ruminating. Having a sense of hope dangled in front of you and then snatched away... i dunno. It's hard to let go. I'll probably be okay in a year or so. But it's gonna suck for a while.

I used to be very accepting of the fact that we can't turn back the clock, but it's pretty difficult now. Playing a buncha games from my childhood ain't helping!

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

I think amnesia isnt real

 

[Waffles's iconWaffles]

I'm in a lot of mental pain.

I'm usually pretty great at hiding it, but the dam just broke today.

Haven't had crying fits and intrusive thoughts this badly since I was half my size. They just don't stop.

 

[Yousef]

Minor rant:
I'm getting really fucking annoyed with my tinnitus right now. I'm still going thru the process I wrote about earlier, but the added tension, and probably the heart rate too is affecting my tinnitus in a new way so I have to listen to it and since it's not a sound I'm accustomed too it's insanely intrusive.

I'm in a lot of mental pain.

I'm usually pretty great at hiding it, but the dam just broke today.

Haven't had crying fits and intrusive thoughts this badly since I was half my size. They just don't stop.

Hope you both get better.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

An online friend once told me I might have some sort of manipulation trauma, then I asked them what they meant by that and then they said this:

Ah, it means that you lack better judgement due to being manipulated into thinking that you've caused problems, when in reality THEY have caused the problem to themselves, and/or they have set themselves up for failure, and you have accidentally fallen into their trap at the wrong place and wrong time.

Basically, you think that you're right that it's your fault, without questioning / being able to question if they are right about that or not.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

I should die, I should die, I should die, I should die, I should die, I should die, I should die, I should die, I should die, I should die, I should die, I should die,