Mental health thread

[Nidstang]

This is a public service announcement to not be afraid of change, and not to be afraid of ditching your hobbies and passions.
A lot of people don't realize how their hobbies and passions can turn toxic and actually BECOME a source of depression and anxiety, instead of a source of relief and fun.

I pursued music nearly my entire life, and after 15 years I realized I never got anywhere with it. It depressed me, made me angry, I became obsessive - and then I decided to quit. It took a little while, but eventually all that negativity went away. Over 15 years music went from a passion that I loved and brought me joy, to a chore that I hated and filled me with negativity and I didn't notice it until I quit. It's been a year and a few months since I even looked at my guitars, and I don't miss it at all.

Music had become so much of my identity - from my career, to the way I dress, to my personal style, to my friend group - that I was afraid of quitting for the longest time, and now that I have, in just a year, I feel like I've matured so much, like a massive weight has been lifted. I'll be starting a new job, that pays more, in a new industry, with real career opportunities next month. I'm preparing to ask my girlfriend to marry me soon. I'll soon have more time to spend with family, friends, and the hobbies I still have. And I no longer have this constant, gnawing feeling like I'm a failure.

Sometimes you need to quit your dreams and passions to truly find contentment.

 

[Xdqwerty]

Still, even though I accepted what I am I keep on suffering day by day, and I still want to die.

Same although I hate myself

 

[Antilocal123]

Accepting what we are it's the first thing to do, and the best one. Still, even though I accepted what I am I keep on suffering day by day, and I still want to die.

I get that, I occasionally get a thought or two but there’s nothing I can really do so I just live with it.

I know it’s cheesy but the fact that I'm still alive is motivation, I must be doing something right if I haven't kicked the bucket.

Hang in there!

 

[Tonberry]

How can I be more positive?

Focus on the things that give you joy and happiness, and remember that some negative things are unavoidable, so it's a net waste feeling extra bad about them.

You're still young (I know you get this alot, so I'm really sorry if sounds repetitive but I promise you this is true) and much of the awful feelings we have as teenagers dissipate when you get older because they literally come from being in that part of life, with shit like hormones running amok and other anxieties and insecurities that feel hard to control.

In time, we learn to separate the different kinds of bad feelings, and even grow out of many of the anxieties that exist around that age. It's a learning process and it sucks, but it's worth it to listen to the signals your body sends you, to help quit bad habits you might not think is bad in the moment (doomscrolling for example is a big one).

I know you're apprehensive against seeking help, so I don't want to go around and tell you that you're wrong for this (because I've been a similar way various parts of my life), so all I can tell you is to prioritize things that make you happy, dealing with boring stuff as it comes, and in general try to focus on enjoying the small good things in life, and not worrying too much about the big picture.

 

[Xdqwerty]

Focus on the things that give you joy and happiness

Like games and YouTube and tv shows and movies and anime? But my family doesnt like that I like the first 2 things.

try to focus on enjoying the small good things in life, and not worrying too much about the big picture.

But everyone says the world is doomed due to a certain happenning in the US

 

[Tonberry]

Like games and YouTube and tv shows and movies and anime? But my family doesnt like that I like the first 2 things.

Parents/family are like that often, usually just out of ignorance. The most important thing is that it's meaningful to you, no matter how much they "control" your life.

But everyone says the world is doomed due to a certain happenning in the US

It's easy to get swept up in stuff like that. But remember that the world isn't just the United States. Before getting consumed by the supermassive black whole of world events on the internet, remember that you're one person, and that being comfortable in your immediate life and reality should come first, as much as you are able to.

 

[Xdqwerty]

Parents/family are like that often, usually just out of ignorance. The most important thing is that it's meaningful to you, no matter how much they "control" your life.


It's easy to get swept up in stuff like that. But remember that the world isn't just the United States. Before getting consumed by the supermassive black whole of world events on the internet, remember that you're one person, and that being comfortable in your immediate life and reality should come first, as much as you are able to.

But i'm venezuelan and I don't like being here

 

[fake-kun]

But everyone says the world is doomed due to a certain happenning in the US

Once, when I was having a panic attack over certain political events that I won't mention, my mother said this to me:

"If the world is going to end, there's no point in worrying about it. But if it doesn't, then you've just wasted your time and your nerves."

I think those are good words to keep in mind.

 

[J.F.C]

I have both OCD and Depression but if i'm being quite honest i'm so used to the symptoms they don't even bother me all that much anymore. It's just who i am now and it's not like there's a cure for either so it's best of me to just embrace it.

 

[Antilocal123]

But i'm venezuelan and I don't like being here

Have you tried simply seeing what your area has to offer? I come from a family in Central America too so I get the bane of a boring ass city/state.

 

[Tbest25]

Like games and YouTube and tv shows and movies and anime? But my family doesnt like that I like the first 2 things.

My take: these aren't bad, you can enjoy them but they don't add much to your life. You should focus on creating stuff that you enjoy doing, like art, music, writing or anything that revolves in you investing some time and effort to accomplish. Trust me is worth it.

But everyone says the world is doomed due to a certain happenning in the US

Don't listen to news and people on the internet telling that the world is gonna end just because a tanned chicken is now president. They create this headlines to induce fear and to make people click on their headlines. I would advice you to stop reading about news like that, because they don't add nothing to your life. Focus on the news from your town, stuff that actually impacts on you daily life. That's my 2 cents on the matter, take it or throw it on the trash, is up to you.

 

[Xdqwerty]

You should focus on creating stuff that you enjoy doing, like art, music, writing or anything that revolves in you investing some time and effort to accomplish. Trust me is worth it.

I don't want people irl to know

Don't listen to news and people on the internet telling that the world is gonna end just because a tanned chicken is now president. They create this headlines to induce fear and to make people click on their headlines. I would advice you to stop reading about news like that, because they don't add nothing to your life. Focus on the news from your town, stuff that actually impacts on you daily life. That's my 2 cents on the matter, take it or throw it on the trash, is up to you

I don't mean news per se but rather what people think about them

 

[Antilocal123]

I have both OCD and Depression but if i'm being quite honest i'm so used to the symptoms they don't even bother me all that much anymore. It's just who i am now and it's not like there's a cure for either so it's best of me to just embrace it.

Truer words have never been spoken.

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Like games and YouTube and tv shows and movies and anime? But my family doesnt like that I like the first 2 things.

But everyone says the world is doomed due to a certain happenning in the US

My country has a dictator ( literally ) who killed students and exiled priests, I’d say you guys are fine.

( And I don't mean that in a morbid bragging way, just saying that things could be worse )

News will always attempt to make a situation bigger than it actually is, especially regarding big stuff that’ll attract clicks.

It’s not the end of the world, trust me.

 

[Tbest25]

I don't want people irl to know

You don't need to tell anyone about it. Just make what makes you happy and that's it.

I don't mean news per se but rather what people think about them

Same thing applies to people. Stay away from people with opinions that don't match reality. People that stay in social medias all day, like X, berating and cussing everyone that don't agreed with them.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

I've been somewhat uneasy lately, not for my sake but for someone else. I have a childhood friend I've known for 25 years and I fear he might be heading down a dark path, but we're long distance these days and I'm unsure what I can do to help.

 

[fake-kun]

I've been somewhat uneasy lately, not for my sake but for someone else. I have a childhood friend I've known for 25 years and I fear he might be heading down a dark path, but we're long distance these days and I'm unsure what I can do to help.

I'm so sorry. I wish I had any advice for you.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

I'm so sorry. I wish I had any advice for you.

It's alright. He's been falling down some rabbit holes and getting moodier and more on edge. I'm trying to do what I can to be a positive influence, but I worry that his current circumstances are making him vulnerable to negative influences.

We've both had a rough life in the past and have rode through hell together. I can't help but feel I'm failing him now.

 

[Tonberry]

It's alright. He's been falling down some rabbit holes and getting moodier and more on edge. I'm trying to do what I can to be a positive influence, but I worry that his current circumstances are making him vulnerable to negative influences.

I was in a similar situation a few years back. It's awful how powerless you feel.
Luckily, he overcame his bad habits and became even happier than before. I truly hope it works out for your friend.

 

[fake-kun]

For as long as I can remember, I have had intrusive thoughts about getting injured and/or dying. For example, I'll see a heavy object and imagine how painful and agonizing it would be if it fell on my foot and crushed my bones. Or if I'm near a high place, I'll feel the urge to jump to learn what it would feel like to die that way.

It's been going on for so long that I've gotten used to these thoughts. I've never talked to anyone about it, both because for a long time I just assumed it was normal, and because there's a huge stigma about mental health where I live.

 

[Prism_Red]

I've been somewhat uneasy lately, not for my sake but for someone else. I have a childhood friend I've known for 25 years and I fear he might be heading down a dark path, but we're long distance these days and I'm unsure what I can do to help.

I'm in a similar situation, all I can do is pretty much keep in touch with him every week, making sure he is fine, he eats good and has a good rest, and if he has something to say I will patiently listen to him.
It's easier when we in the same town 'cause we can just hang, not so much when we're thousand miles apart, the best I can give is to show him that someone still cares.

 

[Xdqwerty]

For as long as I can remember, I have had intrusive thoughts about getting injured and/or dying. For example, I'll see a heavy object and imagine how painful and agonizing it would be if it fell on my foot and crushed my bones. Or if I'm near a high place, I'll feel the urge to jump to learn what it would feel like to die that way.

It's been going on for so long that I've gotten used to these thoughts. I've never talked to anyone about it, both because for a long time I just assumed it was normal, and because there's a huge stigma about mental health where I live.

Same

 

[Tonberry]

For as long as I can remember, I have had intrusive thoughts about getting injured and/or dying. For example, I'll see a heavy object and imagine how painful and agonizing it would be if it fell on my foot and crushed my bones. Or if I'm near a high place, I'll feel the urge to jump to learn what it would feel like to die that way.

It's been going on for so long that I've gotten used to these thoughts. I've never talked to anyone about it, both because for a long time I just assumed it was normal, and because there's a huge stigma about mental health where I live.

Sort of similar experience here.

I have had physical and auditory tics on and off my entire life, and intrusive obsessive thoughts like having to touch things a certain way and that typical stuff. Since I've had it forever I think I have some form of actual OCD, but I've never looked into it.

Ever since I had my first anxiety bouts at 16-17 some of those intrusive thoughts had to do with pain too, like standing too close to a traffic light when cars go by and imagining what would happen if a car hit me (not imagining walking out, just sort of imagining the pain or whatever). And as an adult I got majorly burned out a few years back and have basically zero stress resistance anymore. This has led me to obsessively "feel" or "scan" the inside of my body for signs of pain. I'm completely physically healthy aside from being weak and having IBS, but I get sort of "phantom pain" that occurs because I look for it, which leads to tension headaches which makes my imaginary brain pain feel real. It's a bad cycle.

I'm getting better at handling it though, but it's pretty tough when you're a hypersensitive person in general, which I've always been.

 

[Yousef]

 

[Capricorn_is_Goat]

Goes without saying this isn’t to substitute real professional help. This is a place to vent about your depression, anxiety and other stuff. A place for positivity and kindness. Please be nice to everyone here.
If you’re uncomfortable posting here you can also use this place to find people to dm in private if you’re not comfortable discussing stuff in public but still wanna vent.

Once again don’t be shy to air out your heart. This place Will (hopefully) be great for that.
And if not, we’ve got a fantastic moderation team. If something or someone bothers you, inform a mod.

That’s all kinda. I hope this place grows into a positivity center and place to give others virtual hugs nyaaaa ?

As someone who has been in and out of mental health hospitals for years, and who is on disability for Schizophrenia I can ASSURADLY say that that the support I've been giving here, has been just as good of a quality and mostly better than any professional doctor. You will find people here who are like-minded. That helps WAY more than a doctor assessing you from based on a manual, or a counselor who you may achieve enough of a repour with to work up to that level. And, it's cheaper!

 

[Xdqwerty]

As someone who has been in and out of mental health hospitals for years, and who is on disability for Schizophrenia I can ASSURADLY say that that the support I've been giving here, has been just as good of a quality and mostly better than any professional doctor. You will find people here who are like-minded. That helps WAY more than a doctor assessing you from based on a manual, or a counselor who you may achieve enough of a repour with to work up to that level. And, it's cheaper!

But professional help sucks