How do you speak with people?

[spacebear]

Used to be very quiet and kept to myself. Due to the job I've had the last four years it forced me to break out of my shell and be way more upfront towards others or else someone could literally die if they're doing something dumb and I don't speak up. Sometimes this causes me to come off as aggressive or offputting however it's helped me make a lot more friends over the years with very little conflict because every conversation I have is extremely genuine and open. What you see is what you get I'm the real deal baby and if you can't handle that then not my problem.

 

[Iguana-0]

i tell them to eat s*it and die. And make sure to make it sound as sincere as possible.

 

[Faust03]

I sometimes make friends by spewing random bullshit everywhere. It sometimes works!

 

[Boo Man]

The trick is to be genuine and not give a shit what people think about you

 

[Gold]

My usual approach is a compliment aimed towards discussion, like telling somebody I like something they're wearing and asking where they got it or something. Open up with some common ground that shows interest.

 

[BasileosAlexios]

I don't really speak to people. I speak to my imagination of people. And nobody ever hears me, they just hear the air vibrating.

 

[Aziamuth]

So what? Do you have a tag on you stating you are 10 years older than them? Doesn't matter. Talk to them the same way you'll talk to anyone, regardless of their age. Unless you're going after certain ages, in which case, Chris Hansen would like to talk to you instead.

When there's a huge age gap there tends to be a difference in interests, likes and, sometimes level of mental maturity which, believe it or not, can make a difference. It's the same as if I were to try to be friends with someone who is 40 years old

 

[LiberoVulpes]

I never have to initiate, for some reason, people just approach me and want to talk to me.

I don't know why.

The trick to make friends and influence people, is solely to tell them what they want to hear, its very easy.

 

[Bonkers225]

When there's a huge age gap there tends to be a difference in interests, likes and, sometimes level of mental maturity which, believe it or not, can make a difference. It's the same as if I were to try to be friends with someone who is 40 years old

Well for one you're on a video game message board, and two, you're an introvert. It's not like you're a doctor, professor, or a Shakespearean actor talking to grade children. I guarantee you the interests and likes will be similar, and because you don't have much experience socially they might actually be above you in mental maturity.

So far I've seen people offer up some good advice on here, and all you have done was keep making excuses to shoot them down. I don't think you even plan on doing anything, nor changing. Waste of time.

 

[Aziamuth]

I sometimes make friends by spewing random bullshit everywhere. It sometimes works!

The Faustian strat, a classic

 

[Ikagura]

So what? Do you have a tag on you stating you are 10 years older than them? Doesn't matter. Talk to them the same way you'll talk to anyone, regardless of their age. Unless you're going after certain ages, in which case, Chris Hansen would like to talk to you instead.

When there's a huge age gap there tends to be a difference in interests, likes and, sometimes level of mental maturity which, believe it or not, can make a difference. It's the same as if I were to try to be friends with someone who is 40 years old

I cannot talk for everyone but I know that I've been told once that even if both persons are adult it's socially less acceptable to be friendly with someone with a certain age gap. And that people are still technically not fully developed until around 25 years old so they're still physically and mentally not fully adult at 18.

 

[ciro64]

I cannot talk for everyone but I know that I've been told once that even if both persons are adult it's socially less acceptable to be friendly with someone with a certain age gap.

This is so bullshit. Not that I doubt there's people with this mindset, but don't guide yourself by it ever

 

[DanCalibur]

This is so bullshit. Not that I doubt there's people with this mindset, but don't guide yourself by it ever

In reality it's more like this

 

[Antilocal123]

I know this sounds childish but be yourself lmao, even if that guy is an asshole, you’ll find your group eventually.

Don’t distance yourself from the world or view others as beneath or above you, trust me, all of us are losers at the end of the day in one way or another.

Also you could hold up a gun to their head, preferably a real one.

 

[Grumpy_Old_Man]

I'm rather shy, so I normally don't stat conversations, except when i feel the ambiguous "Chemistry" or good feel with someone(very rare). Even then I need considerable time to start joking with them.

 

[J.F.C]

I cannot talk for everyone but I know that I've been told once that even if both persons are adult it's socially less acceptable to be friendly with someone with a certain age gap. And that people are still technically not fully developed until around 25 years old so they're still physically and mentally not fully adult at 18.

People are fucking mental nowadays, you aren't even allowed to talk to people below 25 wtf even is this shit? So that means you guys wouldn't be able to speak with me until last year because my "brain wasn't fully developed yet". Twitter has ruined an entire generation of people Jesus Christ, in a few years you won't even be aknowledge someone's existence unless they are 40 years old.

 

[Bonkers225]

I cannot talk for everyone but I know that I've been told once that even if both persons are adult it's socially less acceptable to be friendly with someone with a certain age gap. And that people are still technically not fully developed until around 25 years old so they're still physically and mentally not fully adult at 18.

This makes no sense. Than why are they able to vote at age 18? If you're not mentally an adult yet, than I don't want you voting on the future of the country, government, my money and healthcare. And let's not get into the adult industry.

 

[Strategist's iconStrategist]

When there's a huge age gap there tends to be a difference in interests, likes and, sometimes level of mental maturity which, believe it or not, can make a difference. It's the same as if I were to try to be friends with someone who is 40 years old

There are some really immature almost 40 year olds out there. I'm sure they exist and may be posting on this forum at this moment.

 

[Asian girls lover]

There are some really immature almost 40 year olds out there. I'm sure they exist and may be posting on this forum at this moment.

Here I am.

 

[Strategist's iconStrategist]

Here I am.

Cheers, fellow old. I already outed myself since I remember things such as Blockbuster, VHS tapes, Atari consoles and Apple II computers.

 

[Asian girls lover]

Cheers, fellow old. I already outed myself since I remember things such as Blockbuster, VHS tapes, Atari consoles and Apple II computers.

Also floppy disks, old modems that had to be plugged into the landline phone jack and DOS system.

 

[Grumpy_Old_Man]

Cheers, fellow old. I already outed myself since I remember things such as Blockbuster, VHS tapes, Atari consoles and Apple II computers.

Call me immature, if killing my "sense of wonder" is a requisite to being an "adult".

 

[UnDubious]

Yeah I was going to say, a 30 year old can easily be friends with a 40 year old. It's not so hard once you're well into adulthood. I have a couple older friends, and so do other friends my age (I hardly see my friends these days, but it's more so my fault now). Relating to the college students might be harder, I don't know. If I went back to university I probably would focus on studying and maybe look for people who are a little older than most of the students to talk to now and then, because there's bound to be others. But once you're 30 or close to that your best bet for making new friends is probably through activities in your area - sports, outdoors stuff, martial arts, hobbies, whatever - and maybe work, but unfortunately work dynamics are weird now and a lot of the time work friends are only work friends, so don't stress about that.

 

[King Koopa's iconKing Koopa]

I walk up to them and press A