Do you still see your childhood friends?

[SamanthaSamantha's icon]

My best friend and I are still on good terms, but haven't seen each other for more than a few minutes in three whole years now, and I don't see that changing anytime soon (she's got three kids now, as well as two jobs to give them a good life).

The rest of my childhood crew either stands on the other end of a burned bridge or has gone MIA in the years since...

It's kinda sad, but definitely understandable.

Do you see your old crew?

 

[Appiplyer]

Nope we lost contact ever since i moved '>' (i don't have any means of communication)

 

[SamanthaSamantha's icon]

Nope we lost contact ever since i moved '>' (i don't have any means of communication)

Understandable — I lost a good group when I moved.

 

[Evaccaneer Doom]

I haven’t spoken to many of them in years
I can but often forget

 

[polter99]

Couple months ago me and my friend from elementary plays Minecraft Bedrock, and still in contact from time to time when time allowed it. Unfortunately I lost contact with all my friend from school days except this one guy.

Also I still in contact with my friend I met online from like 15 years ago or so on Facebook, so that may or may not count as "childhood friend". Never met personally since he's on different town but same country, but we're on good term.

 

[SamanthaSamantha's icon]

so that may or may not count as "childhood friend"

I believe it counts just fine ^^

 

[Den MDM Den MDM]

I can't use phones while in the academy and I don't get much free time besides nights like these (Saturdays and Sundays I'm obviously free but I can't really travel to where they are, it's too far.)

I might see them again on summer break, but at this point it feels like they'll just grow out of me. It's sad, but maybe it's for the best. If they do have any slight interest in seeing me again, I'm glad.

 

[Stingy Perry Stingy Perry]

I haven't spoken to them in decades I knda lost contact or they're the ones who couldn't get in touch with me because I don't any social media accounts. My only online social activities are consists of YouTube, this forum and Discord.

 

[Zerpina]

I randomly see Jez from time to time....

She's kind of like a gypsy and blows into town randomly.
Once, she was gone for six months.... another time, she was gone for five years. Now, I have no way to contact her most the time and then, just like a sudden thunderstorm, poof... there she is.

She will pop up on my front door, kick it, and hang out for a few days or a week or so, then be gone again. I occasionally get emails or a phone call or two from her from time to time. But as for the others you might call friends, I certainly don't.

I haven't seen them since high school, and I really don't care if I ever do again.

 

[GundamJehutyKai]

I keep in touch with a couple of friends from my childhood and we see eachother when either of us is in town but that't not often since we are on different continents. Our families as a whole are very close so we've kept our friendships that way.

Otherwise, I;ve only really kept up with friends I met from University onwards. I still hear about old friends from my childhood as they all stayed fairly local to my family home but I don't see them at all

 

[_Axl]

Besides my high-school best friend (who I not only talk to through social media but also see each other at least once a month)... nope.
I wouldn't mind though, it's always fun to meet someone you have good memories with. But realistically, I can't see it happening. Cause despite (probably) living on the same city, they mostly wouldn't care about me, y'know.

At least the one guy that's still there is, well, still there, sharing memes and stuff with me.

 

[CocaFeca]

The last time I saw them personally was in Christmas and new year in 2024, we talk through whatsapp and their parents came to my birthday last year but that's about it, pretty sad since we had an opposite case to everyone.

when kids we couldn't stand each other and we tried to do harmful things (we used to play with giant wood sticks a lot) but it was somewhat fun at times, getting into crazy shenanigans, exploring unknown parts of our area (the sticks came from a jungle-like area in between houses) meeting different residents of our area, and walk through our neighborhood and it's park, kinda like ed, edd n eddy or craig of the creek in a way, helped by the fact that our homes were basically close to each other and our families were related, we were basically more of a latin american family than what hollywood portrays.

But then i moved out in 2017 and didn't see them until 2019

Then when we became teenagers, one of them matured a lot, even more than me, he grew as a person and got a great physique, he even went to swimming competitions and won a few times, we still talk from time to time.

meanwhile the other seems to be a lot more, let's say a "virgin", he tends to do a lot of sexual and dumb jokes, but in the end, he seemed a lot more tolerable, less mean and less manipulative than when he was a kid, so he somewhat grew as a person, but we haven't spoked as much, last thing i knew about him is that he wanted to get a job, that he was hooked with sparking zero and hazbin hotel (he isn't trans btw) but i don't know if he watched season 2 or helluva boss.

I could go to their town though, it's not that expensive or far away but the time constraints they have and the fact that my mind has been rapidly shattering since mid 2024 dosen't help, same case with my uncle's and aunt's

 

[Mal]

i had a friend that i knew since highschool all the way until recently, he had to move to another country in hopes of having a better life.

i miss the guy, but at the same time its been a year and all i had was, after wishing him a happy birthday, a message that in a very short and dismissive manner felt like someone saying "im not interested in talking with you again".

im still processing this and hey! dude was struggleing and probably is going through great changes in his life so you could give him a break in where his head space and priorities are.

but it really hurted me and enough time has passed since then to know, this is just one of those sour moments in life where life changes people and separation is just part of it, nothing more than to deal with it and move on.

 

[SamanthaSamantha's icon]

a message that in a very short and dismissive manner felt like someone saying "im not interested in talking with you again".

I'm really sorry to hear that.

I'll say you are VERY big for trying to understand their situation... But fuck them.

I have had plenty of experiences with friends and acquaintances that moved away, then suddenly thought themselves better than those who stayed.

Fuck. Em.

 

[LiberoVulpesLiberoVulpes's icon]

The last time I talked with my best friend from school, was around 2015, we played some skirmish maps of Dawn of War as our last hurrah before going our separate ways. No idea what has happened to him since them.

For the rest of the gang, I was never that close to them, so we just stopped talking after graduation.

I do keep in touch with internet friends I made back then, we even know each other IRL. Since they know I like to be left alone most of the time, and some of them have other obligations, we don't talk or game that frequently.

 

[Metroid_Hybrid]

No...

Pretty much all of the "friends" that I grew up with later on turned out to not to really be my friends at all. They either seriously screwed me over one way or another, or just showed themselves to be little more than "fair weather friends." There's at least one in the former category that I would probably break his legs if I ever see him again...

Unfortunately, I only really figured most of this out in the past several years. For over 20 years I was effectively a monk, always either training or working (3rd shift), and therefore rarely wanted for much of anything. I also went out of my way to help my "friends" out whenever I could, even letting the one that was a war veteran live with me for a couple of years during one of his darkest hours..

But when hard times finally hit me, they scattered like leaves in the wind. Then I found out a bunch of other BS, like apparently one of them was who burglarized & stole most of my games back in my late-teens. The one who I let live with me was an alcoholic (and part-time crackhead) who consumed my entire liquor cabinet; he promised to help me out after my dad was diagnosed with cancer, instead he ghosted me and left me holding a bunch of debt. Another, a decade ago, slept with the psychotic GF I had at the time. I think she had every intention of "monkey branching" over to him, but let's just say I turned out to be far more "impressive" than him in every way (other than him being 7 inches taller). The rest were just "fair weather friends" like I said before. There's one who at least has the excuse of being a single-dad, but he's never once lifted a finger to help me in the past 30+ years, so....

With the exception of one, each of them are 3~9 inches taller than me too. So they ultimately just looked down upon me, both figuratively and literally..

On one hand, they were really helpful for my psyche throughout my teens & early 20s. But on the other hand, it can be argued that I've never had any real friends my entire life..

I'm tired of having to do everything by myself.....

 

[zerodayhx]

i cut everyone i knew from highschool out of my life around 2 years after graduating.
I tried to stay in contact but nobody cared to, i realized after looking back that none of them were actually friends to begin with, only liked me because i was useful.

Not trying to make this sound like traumadumping cuz ive long since come to terms with this and im much happier without them in my life, dont even really think about them unless my mom informs me that another of them ended up dead.

id be lying tho if i didnt feel some kind of catharsis whenever i learn their lives have turned out horrible while im able to live my life in a happy relationship and drawing for a living.

sorry, this turned out kind of depressing and vent-y
uh to answer the question...no i dont lol

 

[Sheepy765]

I’ve moved too much to be able to keep in touch with any of my friends from childhood. Really the only friends that have stuck around are ones I’ve known online since 2021-2022.

That said I wonder what the members of my old D&D group are up to sometimes, and if anything would have changed if I didn’t move schools until we all graduated. Probably not.

 

[sneakyguts]

yeah i see my childhood friend everyday since she is my wife