Did you ever had a crush on someone at school?

[HITMAN_99]

yeah i had a lot of then in my classroom........................... sadly i got fired from my job a few months in. : (

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

Do I want to talk about this? Why not.
I've had my fair share of crushes. Most never going anywhere. In fact, the one girl I had a relationship with liked me, not the other way around. But that's already going off topic. There was this one girl I really was into, like really heavy. Not the typical crush. I'll call her Sue (cant think of anything good lol) because of privacy. Sue was really cool. Smart, beautiful (much more so than any other girl I liked) and all around awesome to be around. We became friends pretty quickly. She sat next to me one day at lunch and asked me if I would let her have my lunch, I told her fuck no lol. My homie looked at me and told me that she was pregnant, so I gave her my lunch and got her information that day. After that we talked just about every day for 2 years. Even after we both graduated. But the issue was that she never really liked me that much, friend or otherwise. She has a lot of issues, issues I really hope she figures out one day. She would talk to me mainly because I have a way of explaining people's problems to them in a way that can help them figure things out, I was the emotional support guy basically. I won't get into a lot of the stuff she talked to me about in detail, but it was a lot of her trauma from a certain event in her life, her uncertainty of being a mother, her sexual escapades, anything she needed to talk to someone about she would come to me. But she never initiated conversation herself unless she wanted something. And I fell for it every time. I don't think she is a bad person, I think a lot of the things that has been done to her and things she has done weigh on her and she doesn't know how to handle it properly. I still think about her from time to time, and I feel for her deeply even to this day. But my care for her ended up becoming an obsession, one that would never pay off, and so I cut things off. She helped me through a really rough time in my life and I felt indebted to her. But it finally came to a head when I met up with her one day. It was her son's birthday and I got something for him because I knew she was struggling to get him something that year, her job cut her off and she was hurting for cash. When I got there, we got him to come over and get his present, which was really nice, her son is a cute kid. But she barely talked to me, and I didn't want to sit there for like 10 minutes with zero conversation (my autism doesn't really help in these situations either) and when I got home I realized she never thanked me. She didn't talk to me after that for a good month. And when she did talk to me finally it was to tell me about a crazy night of passion she had. So that was it. She got a hold of me not 2 months ago just to immediately start trauma dumping on me, and these days I'm not in the position to help her figure it out anymore. So I probably will never talk to her again, but I hope she is doing well and can someday figure out how to manage her pain. God I feel like a piece of dirt to this day.

Jesus, that's rough. You deserved better then that. The one I dated for 2 years was one of the prettiest girls I had ever known at the time, but she had really bad BPD. I had a nonexistent self esteem level and put up with a lot because of it, but I always came back.

 

[Skeetos]

Damn…that's horrible man. All that just to get that kind of treatment? You deserve better man

Yeah, I'm not the best when it comes to romance. So I don't really try anymore. But that's okay for me. I'd rather be lonely and free than taken and spiteful. If there's someone who comes around that really appreciates me I might try, maybe. That aforementioned relationship I was in kinda ruined it for me, even though it was dumb High School love, at least I think I liked her. I wanted to tell her no when she asked me out, but I was a bit desperate. She ended up taking advantage as well, and her step dad reminded me of my own and that wouldn't have ended well for him, so it worked out the way it needed to.

 

[ZombieFish]

I’ve nursed one, two, even three sided crushes for nearly as long as I can remember. Usually ladies, but anybody can get it. I remember reading in Kurt Vonnegut’s auto-memoire that he had a crush on the lady at the Post Office in his like, late 70s? I feel that. Scorpio shit.

 

[Skeetos]

Jesus, that's rough. You deserved better then that. The one I dated for 2 years was one of the prettiest girls I had ever known at the time, but she had really bad BPD. I had a nonexistent self esteem level and put up with a lot because of it, but I always came back.

I'm glad you were able to get out of that. It's hard for sure.

 

[Antilocal123]

Had a semi-serious crush on a guy in HS and a serious one on a girl in MS, it’s fucking embarassing.

I remember staying silent and refusing to even smile around her because I thought she’d be into that, it didn’t fucking work lmao

 

[ciro64]

There's no point in letting the feeling of crush consume you when you have no proof that the person in question has any interest for you. By "proof" I don't mean explicit verbalization, but once you gain a grasp of how people communicate with signals it becomes pretty obvious. If you don't take that precaution you're begging to get hurt. It's even worse when you not only get your feelings rejected but also invalidated.

Yup, I'm being the edgy guy in the thread instead of playing along. Blame my tragic backstory.

 

[Skeetos]

There's no point in letting the feeling of crush consume you when you have no proof that the person in question has any interest for you. By "proof" I don't mean explicit verbalization, but once you gain a grasp of how people communicate with signals it becomes pretty obvious. If you don't take that precaution you're begging to get hurt. It's even worse when you not only get your feelings rejected but also invalidated.

Yup, I'm being the edgy guy in the thread instead of playing along. Blame my tragic backstory.

You have a point. But also it's one of those things where sometimes you have to get hurt to learn the lesson. I wouldn't change what happened in my situation for anything. I might sound a bit cynical myself but I feel like with my Autism it was a good thing that certain things happened to me, it taught me early on that stuff is never always sunshine and rainbows and that things can be rough. It's how you handle that pain afterwards that makes the man so to speak.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

There's no point in letting the feeling of crush consume you when you have no proof that the person in question has any interest for you. By "proof" I don't mean explicit verbalization, but once you gain a grasp of how people communicate with signals it becomes pretty obvious. If you don't take that precaution you're begging to get hurt. It's even worse when you not only get your feelings rejected but also invalidated.

Yup, I'm being the edgy guy in the thread instead of playing along. Blame my tragic backstory.

Or you could be like me, so oblivious to love that you could be married for 30 years, have kids, and still think "Hmm... does she like me? I'm not sure..."

 

[Antilocal123]

There's no point in letting the feeling of crush consume you when you have no proof that the person in question has any interest for you. By "proof" I don't mean explicit verbalization, but once you gain a grasp of how people communicate with signals it becomes pretty obvious. If you don't take that precaution you're begging to get hurt. It's even worse when you not only get your feelings rejected but also invalidated.

Yup, I'm being the edgy guy in the thread instead of playing along. Blame my tragic backstory.

Nah, getting rejected/embarassed builds character and helps you navigate relationships in the future.

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Or you could be like me, so oblivious to love that you could be married for 30 years, have kids, and still think "Hmm... does she like me? I'm not sure..."

You got Miku you’ll be ok lil bro ?

 

[DunkeyKong]

Yeah, I'm not the best when it comes to romance. So I don't really try anymore. But that's okay for me. I'd rather be lonely and free than taken and spiteful. If there's someone who comes around that really appreciates me I might try, maybe. That aforementioned relationship I was in kinda ruined it for me, even though it was dumb High School love, at least I think I liked her. I wanted to tell her no when she asked me out, but I was a bit desperate. She ended up taking advantage as well, and her step dad reminded me of my own and that wouldn't have ended well for him, so it worked out the way it needed to.

I see, that's a really rough time. I honestly don't know what else can I say, but I hope that you'll have a great partner that'll care for you. Stay strong brother

There's no point in letting the feeling of crush consume you when you have no proof that the person in question has any interest for you. By "proof" I don't mean explicit verbalization, but once you gain a grasp of how people communicate with signals it becomes pretty obvious. If you don't take that precaution you're begging to get hurt. It's even worse when you not only get your feelings rejected but also invalidated.

Yup, I'm being the edgy guy in the thread instead of playing along. Blame my tragic backstory.

I'm sorry for what you've been through, that's also a pretty good advice though

 

[medisinn]

Do I want to talk about this? Why not.
I've had my fair share of crushes. Most never going anywhere. In fact, the one girl I had a relationship with liked me, not the other way around. But that's already going off topic. There was this one girl I really was into, like really heavy. Not the typical crush. I'll call her Sue (cant think of anything good lol) because of privacy. Sue was really cool. Smart, beautiful (much more so than any other girl I liked) and all around awesome to be around. We became friends pretty quickly. She sat next to me one day at lunch and asked me if I would let her have my lunch, I told her fuck no lol. My homie looked at me and told me that she was pregnant, so I gave her my lunch and got her information that day. After that we talked just about every day for 2 years. Even after we both graduated. But the issue was that she never really liked me that much, friend or otherwise. She has a lot of issues, issues I really hope she figures out one day. She would talk to me mainly because I have a way of explaining people's problems to them in a way that can help them figure things out, I was the emotional support guy basically. I won't get into a lot of the stuff she talked to me about in detail, but it was a lot of her trauma from a certain event in her life, her uncertainty of being a mother, her sexual escapades, anything she needed to talk to someone about she would come to me. But she never initiated conversation herself unless she wanted something. And I fell for it every time. I don't think she is a bad person, I think a lot of the things that has been done to her and things she has done weigh on her and she doesn't know how to handle it properly. I still think about her from time to time, and I feel for her deeply even to this day. But my care for her ended up becoming an obsession, one that would never pay off, and so I cut things off. She helped me through a really rough time in my life and I felt indebted to her. But it finally came to a head when I met up with her one day. It was her son's birthday and I got something for him because I knew she was struggling to get him something that year, her job cut her off and she was hurting for cash. When I got there, we got him to come over and get his present, which was really nice, her son is a cute kid. But she barely talked to me, and I didn't want to sit there for like 10 minutes with zero conversation (my autism doesn't really help in these situations either) and when I got home I realized she never thanked me. She didn't talk to me after that for a good month. And when she did talk to me finally it was to tell me about a crazy night of passion she had. So that was it. She got a hold of me not 2 months ago just to immediately start trauma dumping on me, and these days I'm not in the position to help her figure it out anymore. So I probably will never talk to her again, but I hope she is doing well and can someday figure out how to manage her pain. God I feel like a piece of dirt to this day.

Why feel like dirt about that? Sounds like you helped her through a lot of stuff and ended up being taken for granted. Doesn't mean you're obligated to fulfill that role for the rest of your life. If it doesn't feel worth the time, money, and emotion, then it isn't. Maybe you two were each what the other person needed to get through that phase of your lives, and now that phase has passed. Something doesn't have to last forever to be a success.

I had a few crushes, never acted on them. Well, senior year I did ask one girl out and we dated for a little bit, although it was nothing great and ended lamely. Then I dated her friend for a second, who was certainly into me, only to ditch her to go back out with the first girl again and fall into the same hot-cold-hot-cold trap before things ended again. Rookie mistakes, but it happens.

 

[Skeetos]

Why feel like dirt about that? Sounds like you helped her through a lot of stuff and ended up being taken for granted. Doesn't mean you're obligated to fulfill that role for the rest of your life. If it doesn't feel worth the time, money, and emotion, then it isn't. Maybe you two were each what the other person needed to get through that phase of your lives, and now that phase has passed. Something doesn't have to last forever to be a success.

I had a few crushes, never acted on them. Well, senior year I did ask one girl out and we dated for a little bit, although it was nothing great and ended lamely. Then I dated her friend for a second, who was certainly into me, only to ditch her to go back out with the first girl again and fall into the same hot-cold-hot-cold trap before things ended again. Rookie mistakes, but it happens.

I just feel like I could've handled specific things better. I have a tendency to regret a lot of things though. I don't like hurting people, it's unbecoming for a young, strapping lad such as myself lol.

 

[MistHunter]

I had one before University and had one during University....
The first was somewhat unreachable and the latter... Let's just say, it was too good to be true.

 

[Trainer Red]

I guess I'll summarize it in this sorta timeline since it's a yes to all schools

Elementary School -> In my 20s we ended up chatting and she practically said 'Why didn't you tell me you liked me !?' and of course I was just wtf ... loll ... I guess she forgot she liked jerks back then :/

Middle School -> In my 20s still ... I felt bad for her because her life didn't turn out the way she wanted too (lots of personal problems) ... but she gave the same question as my Elementary School Crush .. hah
Reaction was the same too ... she too hanged out with jerks that she would later regret hanging out with so ?‍

>> I was still highly introverted too so eh

High School -> She stole my mechanical pencils that I liked LOL ... I took them back during break but swapped it with a different colored mechanical pencil (same brand) since I really liked the red Clickster brand ... I think she knew since she was using them haha and made efforts to talk to me still ... sadly I didn't really go beyond talking to her since my cousin's harsh words of reality haunted me during my high school days ... which were 'Don't bother engaging in a relationship. Not gonna last long. Don't have your own money yet. Need at least a decent job then you should date and enjoy' ... He wasn't wrong but yeah ~ Also I think this other guy that was hanging around her had a crush on her and seems he took steps to make sure no one else got too close lol ... surprisingly she became a news reporter I see on news videos here ... still gonna view her as the HS crush that took my m. pencils though hahaha

College - Not really haha ... If they're taken I don't let myself have it turn into a crush ... Yep

 

[Dakarus]

I smell a locked thread coming

 

[Pandaprewmaster325]

I liked a girl in 2nd grade told her how I felt she was like "we all love each other" I know where she used to live quite near to me I don't know if she still lives there tho.

After 6th grade I went to boys only school girl school right beside me but never bothered to venture there.

Wasn't particularly interested in my girl classmates during 2-6th grades why? I just wasn't interested

The end.

 

[Jeanfranc]

waiting for those who voted no to come in and talk about not having a single crush to make this thread a bit less one sided. closest ive ever had was childhood crushes on characters in movies like hermione

Aight, I'll take the bait. Back in my high-school days I didn't like any of the girls in my school at all; the girls in my class were repulsive, especially personality-wise.

 

[Tonberry]

Sure.
Most crushes were only physical though because I’ve almost never as anything in common with them.

One was also clearly interested in me but I was scared of the idea so I didn’t pursue it (because I didn’t want to alienate a friend who liked her way more than I did). We both moved on and we are still good friends in our adult life though :)

Only guy I ever liked wasn’t into guys so that was a lost cause from the get-go lol

I don’t like having romantic relationships though, because I don’t like the kind of responsibility and co-dependency it brings, so I don’t pursue crushes. Maybe that’s egotistical but I don’t mind.

 

[Asian girls lover]

Yeah, for a brief time back when I was 15 and another time at 16. But it wasn't a real crush, because those weren't things I was interested about.

 

[DragonMals]

i will never have a crush on someone cause I just want to get my life and goals accomplished.

 

[Prism_Red]

waiting for those who voted no to come in and talk about not having a single crush to make this thread a bit less one sided. closest ive ever had was childhood crushes on characters in movies like hermione

You called?
Me, I don't have any crush, I can count how many girls I talk to in my entire school years (my whole life even) sans mum and sis, I'm too busy having fun playing video games I don't have time for girls.

 

[ATenderLad]

I smell a locked thread coming

"There ain't no rule that says -Depression- can't play basketball!"

 

[Kid Dynamite]

Damn right I did. Tammy Fairweather in junior high. Didn't have the guts to asker out of course.

 

[Deean]

Yup,during junior high and high school.But i never have the courage to tell them,even though i mostly sat close to them.

I always find them to be out of my reach, because they're the "top girl"(in terms of appearance) of my class while i'm just a boring,weird dude.