THE BEST SELF-HELP BOOK, NO LIE (Subjective, but for me Objective)

[Naltic]

So I have scoured a lot of different places to find really good books, but it's seldom that I find a book that truly and I mean truly changes the way I percieve my life and the book I am about to say is the only one (so far) that has truly changed my way of thinking and it's the book that I have quoted in my signature:

This book, right here, is the singlehandeldy best self-help book you will find on the market. Maybe I am being very subjective here, maybe I am just fantasisign about something I found but I don't care. This book right here is for me (and I bet a lot of people nowadays) the best book for when you don't have things figured out.

The gist of the book is that it's about finding meaning and controlling the way you perceive your thoughts, how the way you think (be it positively or negatively) will hugely affect the way a certain event/situation will effect you. I highly, highly recommend reading it, it's very short (like 44 pages) and you won't ever regret it.

 

[ShanaFlameHaze]

Thanks for sharing, this is just what I might need right now

 

[fake-kun]

Aren't all self-help books bullshit?

 

[Naltic]

Aren't all self-help books bullshit?

I 100% agree with you, but this one is 100% accurate in what it says. I mean modern day writing in general is bullshit but this was written back in like 1902 so it was during a time where books were good. I highly recommend reading it and judging yourself, like I said, the book is very short.

 

[ShanaFlameHaze]

Aren't all self-help books bullshit?

Depends. For me personally, The Power of Now by Dale Carnegie really helped me understand how ego works and how to handle emotions and people in general.
But I agree, there are some books that can do more harm than good

 

[Deleted member 257420]

Yeah but you could doomscroll slop for 44 minutes thoughhhhhh

 

[extermist]

Have you tried, 'The Meditations', aka 'To Myself' by Marcus Aurelius

 

[DanCalibur]

Have you tried, 'The Meditations', aka 'To Myself' by Marcus Aurelius

And since it's a very old book you can listen to it for free on Spotify. Highly recommend it

 

[Ikagura Ikagura]

The Bible.

Jokes aside I think that reading books itself is already a form of self-helping because you gain knowledge and lessons even from fictional stories.

 

[diapered]

Yeah but you could doomscroll slop for 44 minutes thoughhhhhh

Yea, I'd rather do what @Antilocal123 suggested than read a "self help" book. I don't have the patience to read a non-technical book anymore...

Also, here is one of the best self help books. Give it a read!

 

[groundbeef]

I have a list of so many books from 'Man's Search For Meaning' to 'Who Moved My Cheese?' to 'Striking Thoughts' from Bruce lee that I have years worth of reading to do. I will give the 'As A Man Thinketh' a read though. I just finished 'The Obstacle Is the Way' by Ryan Holiday. I enjoy alot of Stoic stuff. 'Meditations' was already mentioned, it is also a good read.

 

[Yousef Yousef]

Aren't all self-help books bullshit?

They’re a scam, yes. I’ve read one, and it read less like a book and more like a reddit post.

 

[ATenderLad]

You know, I saw the book in the OP was public domain, so I found it on Internet Archive.

...I gotta be honest, we all take inspiration where we can get it, but there's probably better options out there. This was forty pages of Purple Prose Prosperity Gospel (which is very fun to say out loud!), using a lot of Christian language but claiming personal perfection - a decidedly un-Christian sentiment - and invoking the Buddha as an aspirational figure without really engaging with Buddhism.

There's also a section on how Good Thinking leads to Good Health, and Bad Thinking is what invites disease, but the Influenza pandemic was still a decade away so maybe the author revised that later!

I understand the appeal of personal improvement and having a positive mindset, but As A Man Thinketh deals almost purely in flowery metaphors; it's more sermon than coaching. I imagine there's more practical advice to be found. (I'll confess, I don't read much in the way of self-help though).

 

[TheWanderer]

Thanks for the suggestion but ,as a Muslim the only self-help book I need is the Quran

 

[Naltic]

You know, I saw the book in the OP was public domain, so I found it on Internet Archive.

...I gotta be honest, we all take inspiration where we can get it, but there's probably better options out there. This was forty pages of Purple Prose Prosperity Gospel (which is very fun to say out loud!), using a lot of Christian language but claiming personal perfection - a decidedly un-Christian sentiment - and invoking the Buddha as an aspirational figure without really engaging with Buddhism.

There's also a section on how Good Thinking leads to Good Health, and Bad Thinking is what invites disease, but the Influenza pandemic was still a decade away so maybe the author revised that later!

I understand the appeal of personal improvement and having a positive mindset, but As A Man Thinketh deals almost purely in flowery metaphors; it's more sermon than coaching. I imagine there's more practical advice to be found. (I'll confess, I don't read much in the way of self-help though).

I mean, look—everyone has different opinions, and that's all fine and dandy. But I feel like you're missing out on the valuable information you could gain from the book because of the way you're approaching it. You come off as very pragmatic, which isn't a bad thing since pragmatism is necessary to discern between useful and useless information. However, with that mindset, you seem more focused on what the book is—who wrote it, how it was made, etc.—rather than simply reading it, understanding its message, and then deciding what knowledge is worth keeping.

As I said before, different people have different opinions, but one shouldn’t be so pragmatic that they fail to recognize the valuable insights a book has to offer. Personally, I liked the book, but I didn’t agree with everything in it. Rather, I picked and chose the pieces of knowledge I found valuable to keep in mind. No book is perfect, but when reading self-help books, especially, one should have an open mind and ask, "What useful information can I take from this?" Knowledge is knowledge, and there is no such thing as too much of it.

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Thanks for the suggestion but ,as a Muslim the only self-help book I need is the Quran

well of course, I am Muslim too and I really just think of self-help books as a means to widen my knowledge, something which Islam of course promotes.

 

[Deleted member 257420]

Yea, I'd rather do what @Antilocal123 suggested than read a "self help" book. I don't have the patience to read a non-technical book anymore...

Also, here is one of the best self help books. Give it a read!View attachment 45451

I’ll be sure to Diaper.


Anyway, I don’t agree, THIS is the best self-help book.

 

[ATenderLad]

I mean, look—everyone has different opinions, and that's all fine and dandy. But I feel like you're missing out on the valuable information you could gain from the book because of the way you're approaching it. You come off as very pragmatic, which isn't a bad thing since pragmatism is necessary to discern between useful and useless information. However, with that mindset, you seem more focused on what the book is—who wrote it, how it was made, etc.—rather than simply reading it, understanding its message, and then deciding what knowledge is worth keeping.

As I said before, different people have different opinions, but one shouldn’t be so pragmatic that they fail to recognize the valuable insights a book has to offer. Personally, I liked the book, but I didn’t agree with everything in it. Rather, I picked and chose the pieces of knowledge I found valuable to keep in mind. No book is perfect, but when reading self-help books, especially, one should have an open mind and ask, "What useful information can I take from this?" Knowledge is knowledge, and there is no such thing as too much of it.

As I said, take inspiration where you can find it!

 

[Gorse]

Guys, guys, guys.

It's the foundational element of 20th-century applied communications theory. It's been in print for 90s years. It's the one book that every single person who's read can recommend, easily, myself included. It's applicable to anyone, from any background, in any place or time. It's written wonderfully. You can build a career off of it. If I were president, it would be mandatory reading in schools. Seriously – if you want a better life, read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. I give you my personal assurance that it's the best self-help book ever made.