my opinion/take on why women and men, are forgetting how to interact with each other

[bjork]

I can't even read the OP because holy fucking COMMAS

don't do that!

 

[kuroninneko]

Practicing my game:

Me: Hey girl will you be the roms to my emulator?
Her: No I only play officially licensed products by Nintendo

I guess that didnt work

 

[Clippy]

In some places the odds are simply stacked against guys

 

[Tonberry]

this thread aint about, hooks up or just how to get laid

it was a semi rant, on how both men and women, are distancing themselves, more and more, and miss eventually a good chance of knowing each other and be, in a relationship

both sides, have their pros and cons, its just that we reached to a point, where, even basic human stuff/ways to find a partner, are getting alienated

because social aps, dating apps, etc

in other words, the internet, like it or not, has damaged the crowd, a lot

Yeah true I was just sharing my thoughts in general.

Though speaking of apps; one of my closest friends was terrified of the concept of dating someone he didn't know, and then he tried dating apps for a while to kind of get his feet wet (among other things).
He found his life partner on there and they had a kid together earlier this year, and he's happier than I've ever seen him, so I guess there are fulfilling outcomes too, and not just non-stop hookup stuff.

I think it's also culture. Where I'm from (not necessarily country but region) most people are looking for long-term connections, even on dating apps, so I guess the whole approach can be different based on where you're from.

 

[Jotaro]

COMMAS

ok, breh, i, will, try, to, reduce, the, commas, chill, it's, all, good

 

[bjork]

ok, breh, i, will, try, to, reduce, the, commas, chill, it's, all, good

c-

 

[Jayonnaise6105 Jayonnaise6105]

Yeah true I was just sharing my thoughts in general.

Though speaking of apps; one of my closest friends was terrified of the concept of dating someone he didn't know, and then he tried dating apps for a while to kind of get his feet wet (among other things).
He found his life partner on there and they had a kid together earlier this year, and he's happier than I've ever seen him, so I guess there are fulfilling outcomes too, and not just non-stop hookup stuff.

I think it's also culture. Where I'm from (not necessarily country but region) most people are looking for long-term connections, even on dating apps, so I guess the whole approach can be different based on where you're from.

Yeah, different things work for different people. One friend of mine married, and had a kid with, someone they met through friends, while another friend typically meets people through Facebook.

 

[Kamako]

I think it's a healthy topic. Not sure if this is the correct forum for it though.

Isn't anyone else happy that society is moving towards giving each other more space/leaving each other alone?

 

[Tonberry]

Isn't anyone else happy that society is moving towards giving each other more space/leaving each other alone?

THANK. YOU.

 

[Clippy]

I can't promise it's the last one.

 

[Jotaro]

c-

 

[Sir Auriel of Lionel]

this thread aint about, hooks up or just how to get laid

it was a semi rant, on how both men and women, are distancing themselves, more and more, and miss eventually a good chance of knowing each other and be, in a relationship

both sides, have their pros and cons, its just that we reached to a point, where, even basic human stuff/ways to find a partner, are getting alienated

because social aps, dating apps, etc

in other words, the internet, like it or not, has damaged the crowd, a lot

And my first post was. And I don't think dating apps are the huge point of why we can't get the natural interaction. In fact it might be the oddest one that still tries (when no crimes are happening), the rest is more personal comfort being distorted to be the main focus for people that no one wants to disrupt that. Shopping isn't localized to small hubs that everyone will eventually recognize everyone, you can drive further out to new places or shop online and avoid interaction. People still meet at work but sometimes that's not possible due to fear of your interaction being perceived as harassment because your intended target isn't comfortable in rejecting you directly (provided it was a one off attempt not consistent ignoring the signs of disinterest) or people don't want to ruin the nice work space they have with the awkward history of a failed courtship. We have social apps for our needs of interaction at a distance and even romance with no direct commitment that might keep the mind happy for a time. It's less the internet being the big monster but how socially disconnected we've gotten as our worlds got bigger and ties thinned.

 

[Jotaro]

think it's also culture. Where I'm from (not necessarily country but region) most people are looking for long-term connections, even on dating apps, so I guess the whole approach can be different based on where you're from.

that is partially true, and maybe you got a point, i guess, it varies also, depending on where you from

states, europe, asia, etc

there are dozens of countries/cities, etc

each of them, has its own culture and ideals on how relationships/flirting, should be approached

so yeah, i got what you meant with this

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[Ikagura Ikagura]

I also understand why some women don't wanna converse with a guy if he gives a bad vibe to her.

 

[Cardboardtubeknight Cardboardtubeknight]

Even with just your wall of text its hard to pick up any mannerisms. Same principal of those that jump on the sarcasm train. People are becoming accustomed to that, desensitized further, and using what I consider a "mobile shelter" putting their face in their phones where all your friends, family, and spellcheck are. As paradigm as this rise in technology is, its also completely failing us.

 

[Clippy]

 

[Jotaro]

Even with just your wall of text its hard to pick up any mannerisms. Same principal of those that jump on the sarcasm train. People are becoming accustomed to that, desensitized further, and using what I consider a "mobile shelter" putting their face in their phones where all your friends, family, and spellcheck are. As paradigm as this rise in technology is, its also completely failing us.

 

[Cardboardtubeknight Cardboardtubeknight]

A good way of going about it is by practicing certain things. I can't speak for everyone as I grew up on the threshold of having what we have now, and not. But something that my friends and I do is when we go somewhere to eat and converse and all that shit is we put our phones face down in a stack and whoever goes for theres first is who pays the tip. It's good to do that because you get your dose of chemicals, that way when you do have a moment with the opposite sex or whoever you'll be more comfortable. Baby steps.

 

[Jayonnaise6105 Jayonnaise6105]

A good way of going about it is by practicing certain things. I can't speak for everyone as I grew up on the threshold of having what we have now, and not. But something that my friends and I do is when we go somewhere to eat and converse and all that shit is we put our phones face down in a stack and whoever goes for theres first is who pays the tip. It's good to do that because you get your dose of chemicals, that way when you do have a moment with the opposite sex or whoever you'll be more comfortable. Baby steps.

That's actually kinda clever. I think I'm an anomaly in a way, because most everyone of my generation is seemingly grafted to their phones, but I can't stand the bloody things It's not an issue I have personally, but I know enough people who do

 

[Laura Zonih]

...the “problem” lies in the selfish attitude that each of us has today.
We all expect a lot from others without giving anything in return...

 

[Jotaro]

i am so thankful i dont have insta or facebook, i am free from most social/dating apps

 

[Grumpy_Old_Man]

There are other factors at work, like most people have "low resistance to failure"( as i call them instantaneous generation ) ending relationships and divorce for every simple disagreement (who cooks today) it's quite stupid to say the least.
And a general lack of understanding of the give and take rule.
A general sense of "falseness", no one shows their "real persona, Face".

 

[Jotaro]

We all expect a lot from others without giving anything in return...

most of the people expect, money only bring true happiness, if you broke, you bum, etc

this generation is extra superficial/materialistic

 

[Bonkers225]

Dating apps. People don't know how to properly interact anymore. Just swipe left, and right.

 

[qw90700]

I think it's also the point of a relationship doesn't come from preestablished ones as much anymore, both sides are afraid to lose what friendship they have for a romantic one because they don't want to lose that comfy space of hiding someone that gets you. Not to mention where do you meet someone that wants to be in a relationship? Dating apps, for all the crime and pain they've brought to both sides they do something most are afraid to do, set the stage of wanting a relationship without allowing either side to misunderstand that someone is just nice or wondering someone is interested in you. You both are parties looking for something you can't say your native circles without either jeopardizing your comfort, making you look too forward, show actively looking for someone (that your peers might equate with desperation) or lose a friend. There's also the weird problem of romance requiring you to flirt with the idea of falling in love with a stranger for the mystic before getting to know who they are tears that fantasy apart. The more you know the more you would weigh against the idea of romance/chase fantasy than the idea of trying to build and change the relationship itself.

I can't imagine using dating app... It feels like "far future thing" that you order an item from grocery shop and its location shown on map so you can get it... Weird shit.

I understand the way internet did kill meaningful way people formed romance in their circle. Perhaps kids these days blind to people around them because "I can find better one on internet who have bigger sexual organs, wallet but smaller brain for manipulation" thingy. Then it may seem like ignoring a good shoe on shop "when you can find better one on internet" logic.

I gotta appreciate how things were back then. For example in high school there was a girl who was my close friend. Long story short my school was way shit than my education system. For grade 1 we have "elimination class" so they put everyone from good students to those who intentionally repeat high school to continue living their extended teenage life lol, so it was really shit. We met in opening ceremony and was kinda vibed out mentally because none of us had primitive intent against people. Then we sat close and built our friendship for months.

One day I noticed she looking at a guy's ass that's so big he should be professional at twerk or something lolol. Then she noticed that I noticed how she looks at him, then she asked "my permission" to date with this guy. I confirmed we are friends, and he is my friend too so I would be happy to eat their cake at their wedding lol. And how she dated the guy?: No flirting shit, she just confessed and asked to date. Shit is that simple. But the guy was like a horse waiting someone to ride him which bored her so she started to date with another of my friend. Not to mention I was "matchmaker" in high school making people date so one day I can eat their cake at their wedding. So I did spent significant years of my life eating free cakes and stuff!!!

ayy lmao

Long story short I don't think this kind of dating will happen anymore regardless of culture, because dating even became part of peer pressure more than ever. Imagine at this age, when dating is "so easy" thanks to internet people would make fun of you if you found ugly and not so sexy person for your date in "today's standard". My observation is instead of a life companion to partner-up with people look for an ATM and pornstar shit more than ever, perhaps not because people around them would make fun of them otherwise but most importantly things became a compitation more than ever. When I was a kid sitting with my mother and her friends I did listen a lot about how they talk behind people and make fun of them because "her husband doesn't even work for government, so they have no future" and "my daughter wanna marry a random punk, why she can't find a doctor" shit. Perhaps because of that, I mean because I had no care to work for government and be a doctor or something I grew up into thinking "romance is not my shit". I'm a man and I'm like the next guy but honestly I don't care about romance and shit, I value friendship more instead. Romance can be good but it's optional just as eating a cake for me, yet doesn't mean I wouldn't cheerish me cake lolol. In that regard perhaps it's peer preasure that pushes kids these days into thinking "you are inferior without a love life" so IDK they may push each other to dating apps and shit. It was good that my generation wasn't infected by thought virus internet spreads, their "BS" was enough for me already!!!