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I hate it when people do this, while it is true to some extent, it still sounds demeaning, that sentence don't magically end our problems, it's still there, it's still hurting us.
I think there is a fine line between complaining and complete whining that becomes annoying sometimes you need to complain sometimes its better not it depends on the situation.
Also find the right the person to complain to sometimes a certain friend isn't that reliable to understand what you feel.
The sentence can be annoying but its applicable to people you will meet in your life it may be applicable to you too at some point.
Also find the right the person to complain to sometimes a certain friend isn't that reliable to understand what you feel.
The sentence can be annoying but its applicable to people you will meet in your life it may be applicable to you too at some point.
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As a self-motivational speech to not give up and overcome personal issues it's not a bad thing.
Having that as a pseudo-moral lesson towards someone who needs help is really petty.
This always just felt like a means to shut people down when they're upset. This and "I went through it and you don't hear me complaining" type advice bothers me a great deal. I've gotten a lot of advice like this from more well off family and it made me spiral harder, thinking something was wrong with me.
Everyone handles hardship differently. "The same boiling water that hardens the egg softens the potato"
From what I've seen I wouldn't agree. You seem pretty sharp and have a good head on your shoulders to me.
Don't expect to be some sort of superman or be very skilled with something from the get go , no one was born knowing everything you will learn eventually you just need patience be patient with yourself if you don't know first time you will know second time be a fool once better than being a fool forever in other words if you are oblivious about something it doesn't have to be that way forever.
Idk how to help you other than assuring you with whatever I type here same for others in the end none of us can get you out of this mindset you need yourself the most love yourself I totally mean it YOU SHOULD LOVE YOURSELF NOW
I feel like I can't take this anymore. Don't know why I'm even saying this,I don't wanna keep throwing the mood out of the window in this forum. Don't know why I always show up where I don't belong. Maybe what I mean to say is sorry.
You’re not throwing anything, a ton of people come here to vent and there’s nothing wrong with it, don’t be afraid to pour your emotions.
You got nothing to apologize for, and you're not throwing any mood off here. I for one enjoy your company here on this forum, and this thread is for venting and getting a little heavy anyway. We like you here, man.
In addition to what other people have said, I think a factor to this is that suggesting someone needs professional help is often used as an insult in America. Don't know how it is in other places. Like, saying, "You need therapy," not out of concern for someone's well-being, but rather implying you're a problem that needs fixing.
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It's so funny how the things we end up associating with certain times in our lives can end up triggering such emotional responses. When my relationship of 5 years was breaking down most of the only happy moments we had in those final months were spent with them showing me Adventure Time. I ended up falling in love with it, playing the hell out of the Vita game and appreciating those rare moments we would spend together watching and talking about the show instead of fighting. Was in a Discord call with some friends who just started their first watch (they're on S3 atm) and decided I'd try to tune in to a couple episodes. I still adore the show, but as expected it conjured up some very weird emotions within me.
To love this show so much yet have it attached to memories of watching it with a loved one as I slowly fucked up our relationship is weird. It's the very definition of bittersweet. I'm very proud of the life I've built in the last couple years since we officially called it quits, but man this show still occupies such a fucked up space within my memories...
To love this show so much yet have it attached to memories of watching it with a loved one as I slowly fucked up our relationship is weird. It's the very definition of bittersweet. I'm very proud of the life I've built in the last couple years since we officially called it quits, but man this show still occupies such a fucked up space within my memories...
I've recently started to realize how many problems I actually have. There's like an apocalyptic hornets nest in my brain that always finds new ways to sting me I never knew existed. The worst of it is that it feels kind of like a series of tangled knots, all stemming from one or two sources that, were those sources dealt with, the rest would just sort of unravel... but that's the challenge. Identifying the sources is difficult, while dealing with them is so much more complicated.
On the surface, it feels like it's a really simple situation to deal with, but it's sort of like someone put a really simple child's maze in front of me and tells me "If you get to the end, all your problems will go away" and I'm like... well this is easy! But then whenever I make progress... the maze grows, gaining layers and paths, extending the exit further out amongst ever growing complications.
A bit of a ramble, but the older I get the less I think I know myself.
On the surface, it feels like it's a really simple situation to deal with, but it's sort of like someone put a really simple child's maze in front of me and tells me "If you get to the end, all your problems will go away" and I'm like... well this is easy! But then whenever I make progress... the maze grows, gaining layers and paths, extending the exit further out amongst ever growing complications.
A bit of a ramble, but the older I get the less I think I know myself.
I'm back, sorry for my sudden sulking, some stuff happened. I'm kinda embarrased now loll
But thanks Mikuman, it really means a lot. I'm glad to have this lil' community in these times.
Happens to the best of us, I'm glad you're feeling better now!
I have a similar association with Super Mario 64. My ex from the longest relationship I've ever had wanted to do a 120 Star run with me because I had never done it before then, and it's one of my favorite memories from that relationship. Unfortunately, I have difficulty playing it now without thinking of that time, and once on the subject of my ex, my mind inevitably wanders to memories of abuse and gaslighting.
There may be a whole confluence of explanations for it, but I'm one of those guys that really got jerked around by the professional industry/establishment. Ethnopharmacology and neolithic shamanology have served me better. Still hosed, but came a long way.
The internet feels so centralized, with just a handful of sites everyone uses. It gets so extremely overwhelming, so many people screaming into the void with many of theses mainstream sites encouraging people to be horrible to each other. It’s nice to hear opinions of a vast array of people, but not when there’s so many it’s extremely overwhelming with everyone trying to scream louder and louder over each other.
Adventure Time my beloved
Sometimes I feel so unsure of my own experiences, I always have a burning fear in the back of my mind I’m a horrible person. I feel so insecure about whether the person I believe was abusive was actually abusive. My oldest sister would physically abuse my middle sister (still did less frequently till my middle sister left), would constantly try to get her trouble; Still to this day she claims my middle sister caused her to be bullied, despite no evidence for this being true.
After my middle sister got hit by a car she would start using that against her saying things like “you should have died”, “learn to cross the road”, most recently she’s spun a tale about how apparently she saved my middle sister from getting hit by a car again well on her way to school after her accident, declaring this justified the things she said; The time period she claimed the event happened my sister would not have been able to walk, let alone go to school. She also claimed having a concussion does not affect one’s mental processing.
Things like this will happen, she’ll claim whatever she had done actually happened to her. Well everyone outside my household seems to think she’s the angel she claims to be. Sometimes I feel like I’m crazy, just making shit up. If my own horrible experiences with her even count because I hadn’t been physically abused by her too.
I’m so scared of being like her, being the type of person so use anything against others, twist the truth and their own opinion at the drop of a dime.
After my middle sister got hit by a car she would start using that against her saying things like “you should have died”, “learn to cross the road”, most recently she’s spun a tale about how apparently she saved my middle sister from getting hit by a car again well on her way to school after her accident, declaring this justified the things she said; The time period she claimed the event happened my sister would not have been able to walk, let alone go to school. She also claimed having a concussion does not affect one’s mental processing.
Things like this will happen, she’ll claim whatever she had done actually happened to her. Well everyone outside my household seems to think she’s the angel she claims to be. Sometimes I feel like I’m crazy, just making shit up. If my own horrible experiences with her even count because I hadn’t been physically abused by her too.
I’m so scared of being like her, being the type of person so use anything against others, twist the truth and their own opinion at the drop of a dime.
The mere fact that you're worried about being a bad person shows that you're far better than her.
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