Mental health thread

[Fray Guillermo]

I honestly don't know what to do, I still have to talk to her about how I feel but no idea what will happen after

Well, we just had a long-ass phone call and now things are even more convoluted than before fml

 

[Ogmios]

Aye, every and any one who also suffers from severe alienation from your own friends and family, cheers. I'm talking that "feel alone in a crowded room" type shit. I'm talking that creeping loneliness and isolation even when amongst your peers and loved ones. It's funny how anonymity can really work wonders for just speaking about, otherwise, locked up feelings. I dunno when I started feeling this strange sensation of feeling "other", of not really belonging. It sucks too, I am surrounded by objectively great and caring people who do care about me and love me. It just never seems to get through to me, it doesn't stick, it always sounds so alien to me, so foreign. Someone can tell me that they love me to my face and I will not understand what they mean because it sounds weird to me. I'm poorly explaining it, but yeah. Eh, fuck it, when in doubt, pour up, foo, any time can be Modelo time.

Yeah, I get that way too. I haven't even spoken to my older brother in months. Worst part is that through it I'm often met with sayings like "Lonliness means the heart mends better." or "Just because you don't talk doesn't mean they don't love you." And that I would get, if there was any effort on their part. Speaking more broadly, not just about my brother. It's always me that takes the initiative, and it doesn't go with the feeling that I'm being inconvenient even if I'm not. I think ultimately those things mentioned are true. It's just a weird feeling to cope with. Trust me, I still am.

 

[Kamako]

Going through a really tough week rn because of some stuff going on with my ex-girlfriend....shit has been going on and now I'm both super depressed, anxious and angry and I want to cut ties with her but at the same time I dread thinking about her disappearing from my life.

Well, we just had a long-ass phone call and now things are even more convoluted than before fml

Imagine someone else had written those two posts and you were reading them. What would you think their best course of action would be?

Idk the intricacies of your relationship, but Interacting with her seems to be a net negative for you, at least presently. Hope you find happiness whatever you choose to do.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

I'm not allowed to cry

 

[Kamako]

I'm not allowed to cry

Who said that, and why?

 

[Fray Guillermo]

Idk the intricacies of your relationship, but Interacting with her seems to be a net negative for you, at least presently. Hope you find happiness whatever you choose to do.

It is indeed very intrincate, but I've known her for a really long time and I can tell for sure that her love and affection for me are truly genuine. Stopping interactions between us would be quite devastating for the both of us, at least initially. We both feel like at a dead end whatever we decide to do lmao

Anyways I appreciate your input

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Who said that, and why?

When my mom gets angry and I get sad she tells me that she will slap me in the face if I drop even a single tear

 

[Kamako]

It is indeed very intrincate, but I've known her for a really long time and I can tell for sure that her love and affection for me are truly genuine. Stopping interactions between us would be quite devastating for the both of us, at least initially. We both feel like at a dead end whatever we decide to do lmao

Anyways I appreciate your input

Definitely a tricky situation. I hope you guys can move past this deadlock soon and reach an outcome that leaves you both feeling happier.

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When my mom gets angry and I get sad she tells me that she will slap me in the face if I drop even a single tear

It is always ok to cry. If you feel like you can't cry, even when you think you should, that is also ok. People process emotions differently.

 

[fake-kun]

So... Does anybody else feels a constant, fundamental shame about themselves because of being criticized for every "weird" thing they did, or is it just me?

 

[Ogmios]

I suppose this a place as good any to let stuff off my chest as well just now coming back from a small day long break, but I too am having ex-girlfriend problems. Worst of all it took place at my job which I try to keep the home life and the work life separate. Last month her grandfather passed away. He was someone I took very fondly to while I was in my relationship with her. When it came to us splitting up, a relationship that lasted 6 years, we also separated our things. However, the vinyl records I had accrued, about 60 of them, I had left to her to keep from how her grandfather liked them. Now, following his passing, she has been back in contact with me, and trust me it's been a rollercoaster. It's now gotten to the point to where she is accusing me that my kindness was actually a meticulous way to keep in contact with her. I have also been threatened by her new boyfriend already. This all again occurring while I'm at work. I had just gotten back from a vacation, so it's not really a good disposition to have when you take a 40 minute "bathroom break". I simply said to her to either keep them, sell them, or give them to her parents. I haven't received a response since. To say it's not been clouding my head despite the solution would be a lie though.

 

[Kamako]

So... Does anybody else feels a constant, fundamental shame about themselves because of being criticized for every "weird" thing they did, or is it just me?

I would describe my feelings towards myself in recent years as being more akin to seething self-hatred, more so than shame.

I'm sorry you feel that way and I'm sure you have many redeeming qualities. The fact you feel shame at all indicates that you are remorseful, and that's a healthy thing (in moderation, and if felt for valid reasons). Damn this shit is complicated.

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I suppose this a place as good any to let stuff off my chest as well just now coming back from a small day long break, but I too am having ex-girlfriend problems. Worst of all it took place at my job which I try to keep the home life and the work life separate. Last month her grandfather passed away. He was someone I took very fondly to while I was in my relationship with her. When it came to us splitting up, a relationship that lasted 6 years, we also separated our things. However, the vinyl records I had accrued, about 60 of them, I had left to her to keep from how her grandfather liked them. Now, following his passing, she has been back in contact with me, and trust me it's been a rollercoaster. It's now gotten to the point to where she is accusing me that my kindness was actually a meticulous way to keep in contact with her. I have also been threatened by her new boyfriend already. This all again occurring while I'm at work. I had just gotten back from a vacation, so it's not really a good disposition to have when you take a 40 minute "bathroom break". I simply said to her to either keep them, sell them, or give them to her parents. I haven't received a response since. To say it's not been clouding my head despite the solution would be a lie though.

It's wack that your vinyl collection is being held hostage in all of this, but from the outside looking in, I would again suggest distancing yourself from your ex, at least until tempers aren't as flared up. Then you might be able to discuss getting your records back without threats of violence.

 

[Ogmios]

It's wack that your vinyl collection is being held hostage in all of this, but from the outside looking in, I would again suggest distancing yourself from your ex, at least until tempers aren't as flared up. Then you might be able to discuss getting your records back without threats of violence.

That's what I tried to do. I wouldn't have said anything while at work if she didn't. But she's the type that knows that, and did it on purpose. There's a reason it didn't work out.

 

[Cuestionador]

I am dealing with a poor economic situation (my country it's in the worst state since my childhood, so there's that context that don't help), have to sell some comics (i know some people thinks are crap, but they matter to me) and other things this month and there are problems in my jobs, actually i'm working in one job at the other is on hold for some time, but i spend my vacations working so i feel tired, restless and angry, with me and with the world. I never have any girlfriend or dates, and past 30, it's a very painful thing to bear, like an inner shadow or void who keeps growing and growing. I hope to seek comfort some way or another, but there's days like this where i keep asking in my head: why bother?

 

[Ogmios]

I am dealing with a poor economic situation (my country it's in the worst state since my childhood, so there's that context that don't help), have to sell some comics (i know some people thinks are crap, but they matter to me) and other things this month and there are problems in my jobs, actually i'm working in one job at the other is on hold for some time, but i spend my vacations working so i feel tired, restless and angry, with me and with the world. I never have any girlfriend or dates, and past 30, it's a very painful thing to bear, like an inner shadow or void who keeps growing and growing. I hope to seek comfort some way or another, but there's days like this where i keep asking in my head: why bother?

"Why bother" to what extent?

 

[Cuestionador]

"Why bother" to what extent?

I don't know, it seems i can't have a rest. Somedays i only want to have a ticket to the north pole and rest in the cold, far for my country and the world.

 

[Ogmios]

I don't know, it seems i can't have a rest. Somedays i only want to have a ticket to the north pole and rest in the cold, far for my country and the world.

I get that. Just keep pushing forward. Maybe make that a goal if possible. Not the north pole, but you know

 

[99nereids]

That's what I tried to do. I wouldn't have said anything while at work if she didn't. But she's the type that knows that, and did it on purpose. There's a reason it didn't work out.

im sorry ur going thru that friend this sounds like a stressful thing to go through

ive also had to deal with an ex wreaking havoc on my worklife & that shit sucks. the best advice i have is tie up any loose ends and block them on everything. it might sound hard, it was for me, but i think youll be better off not being in contact with them
rip to your record collection (i bet it was sick as hell) but you can rebuild imagine a record collection, untouched by your ex's rancid vibes

i hope things get better, sorry if i sound like a dork with this lol

 

[Ogmios]

im sorry ur going thru that friend this sounds like a stressful thing to go through

ive also had to deal with an ex wreaking havoc on my worklife & that shit sucks. the best advice i have is tie up any loose ends and block them on everything. it might sound hard, it was for me, but i think youll be better off not being in contact with them
rip to your record collection (i bet it was sick as hell) but you can rebuild imagine a record collection, untouched by your ex's rancid vibes

i hope things get better, sorry if i sound like a dork with this lol

Thanks, yeah it might sound like a harsh solution, but it might be what I have to do. It's more difficult because of the loss. I know I've said my peace in saying we're broken up for a reason blah blah blah, but I also think she might be being sporadic because of that as well. Once I'm completely sure on that, and her well-being, I might just have to block her for my own well-being.

 

[Cuestionador]

I get that. Just keep pushing forward. Maybe make that a goal if possible. Not the north pole, but you know

Thank you for the words of hope, you are very kind. I hope your situation with your ex will heal, too.

 

[Ogmios]

Thank you for the words of hope, you are very kind. I hope your situation with your ex will heal, too.

I mean she hasn't talked to me today so... it's already looking up lmao

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

I wish my inner voice could shut the fuck up

 

[Ogmios]

I wish my inner voice could shut the fuck up

Honestly, I wish the same for my outer too

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Is it true that killing bad/hated people and stupids won't make me a good person?

 

[merzbun]

ive been having a truly dog shit month due to an infestation in my apartment that has been hitting constant phobia triggers. reached a breaking point and im now biting the bullet and moving out of the city to live with my partner. had to quit my job that i love, lose a fair bit of autonomy wrt transit and travel, but you know what? as time goes on and i get more done to make this work it only becomes clearer and clearer to me that this was absolutely what i needed to do. and that has actually been really uplifting. wish it didnt have to be The Big One specifically but i think i needed a crisis of some sort to not just allow my life to be a bit shit anymore. we're on the up so help me god

 

[Ogmios]