Mental health thread

[TheWanderer]

I think I have the fault of most if not all bad things that happenned in my life

so? It's ok learn from them and go on

 

[bigstinkie]

Considering the average friendliness of the userbase here, it's my hope that you'll feel less lonely.

i will most likely be using this website much more than usual in the coming weeks for that reason exactly

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

so? It's ok learn from them and go on

I wish I could do that

 

[TheWanderer]

I wish I could do that

Yeah it's hard to do ,but really try to not overthink it everytime you start thinking about it just distract your self with something,and just look forward

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Yeah it's hard to do ,but really try to not overthink it everytime you start thinking about it just distract your self with something,and just look forward

But I always get scolded for being an irresponsible piece of shit who can't do anything well and has to depend most of the time of the others

 

[RageBurner]

No one is completely independent; there are as may kinds of dependence as there are people, and really, without depending on others our species would have already been extinct long ago. Some aspects of the world are merciless, but that's not all there is.

 

[Deleted member 13897]

No one is completely independent; there are as may kinds of dependence as there are people, and really, without depending on others our species would have already been extinct long ago. Some aspects of the world are merciless, but that's not all there is.

Well said

 

[Ezri_Muldoon]

F#ck it.
Wife left be back in October 2023, took literally everything including a permanent residency visa I sponsored.
This absolutely derailed my Military career.
I became a carer for a friend who can't walk, I have developed a deep seething hatred for state Healthcare due to their absolute neglect and inaction.
I'm due to leave the Navy in October this year to care for her full time, it's a lot of responsibility.
She's okay but have commitment issued due to past abuse, very little interaction with her family due to said abuse, I am literally all she has at the moment.
I'm trying to re-discover my own life at the same time as caring for her and its becoming increasingly difficult.
I mentioned how I was going to buy & live on a boat, she immediately wanted to follow despite us currently having an apartment and my intent to continue to help her fund the apartment afterwards.
The boat was supposed to be a retreat specifially for my own mental health.
Houses are too expensive to buy and I don't want to be tied into a 30 year mortgage.

The fact the main subject went from myself to her is a sign that I am definitely still not in control of my life.
I'm tired boss.

 

[Deleted member 13897]

@Ezri_Muldoon that all sounds like a really heavy load to bear. No one can know what you will or should do next, but I think it’s worth saying that all you’ve done so far has changed someone’s life and given them hope. Sometimes we can help forever, sometimes we can’t. There’s no right answer, but even if you couldnt extend yourself any farther, you’ve done so much that’s worth the world to someone. You did a great job

Edit: I was having a hard time putting into words what I meant. Caregiver burnout is very real, devoting your life to another’s care is noble, but hard on anyone.

 

[TheWanderer]

But I always get scolded for being an irresponsible piece of shit who can't do anything well and has to depend most of the time of the others

Well if you felt guilty after hearing that ,then you know that there is a hint of truth in their word.best way to deal with that is try to change even if it on a slower pace .but if it's not the case then try to ignore these people and focus on making your self happy

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Well if you felt guilty after hearing that ,then you know that there is a hint of truth in their word.best way to deal with that is try to change even if it on a slower pace .but if it's not the case then try to ignore these people and focus on making your self happy

How am I supposed to ignore my own mother?

 

[Deleted member 13897]

How am I supposed to ignore my own mother?

Just wait for a few more years. You can always stop talking to family—I did. Nothing tying you to someone who treats you like shit, if in a few years you discover your life is healthier without her. Heavy suggestion, but it IS an option. I’m really glad my mom isn’t able to speak to me.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Just wait for a few more years. You can always stop talking to family—I did. Nothing tying you to someone who treats you like shit, if in a few years you discover your life is healthier without her. Heavy suggestion, but it IS an option. I’m really glad my mom isn’t able to speak to me.

I love my mother but she is quite temperamental

 

[Deleted member 13897]

Speaking of that…I’m supposed to get a call from my grandma today. One of the two family members I still have, and my relationship with her is tenuous. Today is an important one—if she calls me to talk about the ONE THING I ask to not hear about, my ONE BOUNDRY, in all my 31 years, then I’m just hanging up. I’m not going to sit on the phone with a grown woman who doesn’t understand how to respect one simple request. I deserve respect, even if just a little. Even if I have to take it myself, by forcing someone to stop disrespecting me.

Family is something you nurture and create yourself. If your family members feel like hostages while speaking to you, a grown person, you have failed somewhere along the way in creating an environment where people feel loved.

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I love my mother but she is quite temperamental

I’m sorry to hear that. If you really love each other, maybe she can learn to be someone kinder for you, someday.

 

[Yousef]

Speaking of that…I’m supposed to get a call from my grandma today. One of the two family members I still have, and my relationship with her is tenuous. Today is an important one—if she calls me to talk about the ONE THING I ask to not hear about, my ONE BOUNDRY, in all my 31 years, then I’m just hanging up. I’m not going to sit on the phone with a grown woman who doesn’t understand how to respect one simple request. I deserve respect, even if just a little. Even if I have to take it myself, by forcing someone to stop disrespecting me.

Family is something you nurture and create yourself. If your family members feel like hostages while speaking to you, a grown person, you have failed somewhere along the way in creating an environment where people feel loved.

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I’m sorry to hear that. If you really love each other, maybe she can learn to be someone kinder for you, someday.

Yes you deserve respect and love and I agree about family. Eid Mubarak btw.

 

[fake-kun]

Since we're talking about families, my mother have been feeling intermittently unwell since yesterday. It's probably nothing big, but I'm worried anyway.

 

[Deleted member 13897]

Yes you deserve respect and love and I agree about family. Eid Mubarak btw.

Yeaahhhh Eid Mubarak Yousef!!!! What r u doing tomorrow? We’re doing a potluck, my husband is making nihari ❤ wish I could invite you

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Since we're talking about families, my mother have been feeling intermittently unwell since yesterday. It's probably nothing big, but I'm worried anyway.

sorry to hear that fake :-( tomorrow is a big day for prayer, so if it’s okay with you, I can ask my family (in-laws, this is usually who I mean when I talk about my family) to make prayers for her

 

[fake-kun]

sorry to hear that fake :-( tomorrow is a big day for prayer, so if it’s okay with you, I can ask my family (in-laws, this is usually who I mean when I talk about my family) to make prayers for her

I'm perfectly okay with this.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

I think i'm a lost cause.
I always listen to people's advice and have them in mind (if I don't forget them, that is) but I never put them into practice half of the time. I'm always making the same mistakes and almost never learn from them.
I wish I could stop being so fucking lazy, but something prevents me for doing so.

(I wanted this post to be longer but idk how)

 

[χKai]

Overwhelming sense of indiscriminate hatred today.

 

[Yousef]

Yeaahhhh Eid Mubarak Yousef!!!! What r u doing tomorrow? We’re doing a potluck, my husband making nihari ❤ wish I could invite you

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sorry to hear that fake :-( tomorrow is a big day for prayer, so if it’s okay with you, I can ask my family (in-laws, this is usually who I mean when I talk about my family) to make prayers for her

I’m ok, you might find this funny but my idea of a vacation is try to do mostly nothing. My life is so hectic that a day where nothing happens is actually a happy day for me. I also hung out with my younger brother. That’s enough family social interaction to keep me happy for a full week. I’m serious. We’re also traveling to bosnia sometime this month so I’m really excited.
And thank you I appreciate the gesture. Tell your husband I said salam and that I wish him Eid Mubarak too. Best of luck you two.

Since we're talking about families, my mother have been feeling intermittently unwell since yesterday. It's probably nothing big, but I'm worried anyway.

I’m really sorry to hear that. You’re one of the best users I talked to online so I’d actually be legitimately sad if something awful happens to you so I hope you and your family are ok. Best of wishes.

 

[fake-kun]

I’m really sorry to hear that. You’re one of the best users I talked to online so I’d actually be legitimately sad if something awful happens to you so I hope you and your family are ok. Best of wishes.

Thanks.

 

[Deleted member 13897]

I think i'm a lost cause.
I always listen to people's advice and have them in mind (if I don't forget them, that is) but I never put them into practice half of the time. I'm always making the same mistakes and almost never learn from them.
I wish I could stop being so fucking lazy, but something prevents me for doing so.

(I wanted this post to be longer but idk how)

This is going to sound flippant (mean and dismissive) so I’m sorry, but it’s anything but that: you’re still just a kid CJ. Your pain is as real as anyone else’s, possibly MORE real in some ways, but your criticism of yourself is pretty unfounded because of this factor. You haven’t even had enough time to fuck up, and don’t even correct me bc my mind is set on this. You make so many character assessments about yourself, but they’re all kind of bullshit if you’re just going to be down on yourself. I say this as someone who gets really down on themselves, and when I start self-hating, none of that shit makes any sense. Keep your head up! And maybe do like 10 jumping jacks, it may distract you.

 

[Yousef]

This is going to sound flippant (mean and dismissive) so I’m sorry, but it’s anything but that: you’re still just a kid CJ. Your pain is as real as anyone else’s, possibly MORE real in some ways, but your criticism of yourself is pretty unfounded because of this factor. You haven’t even had enough time to fuck up, and don’t even correct me bc my mind is set on this. You make so many character assessments about yourself, but they’re all kind of bullshit if you’re just going to be down on yourself. I say this as someone who gets really down on themselves, and when I start self-hating, none of that shit makes any sense. Keep your head up! And maybe do like 10 jumping jacks, it may distract you.

Yeah agreed a lot of good advice here i can vouch for

 

[Samatonic Samatonic]