Mental health thread

[Capricorn_is_Goat]

I know its painful, mine was nothing out of the ordinary, which is why it shocked me when she even went on to sue my dad for physically abusing me and my brother (not because she wanted to take care of us, but because she wanted to see my dad suffer) using a birthmark that looked like a bruise which my brother has in his cheek as "evidence" and testifying made-up stuff. What pained me the most was that most people believed my mom simply because most kids prefer their mom over their dad, and ofc, why would you not trust a mom? For real, I was so fed up with the lawyers asking me over and over if I was telling the truth and I wasn't just saying what my dad was telling me to. Thanks to that my brother now has a trauma with courts lol.

I have found that to be a common thread with others who tell me similar- mothers are caring, fathers are abusive.
I'm sorry that happened to you.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

I know its painful, mine was nothing out of the ordinary, which is why it shocked me when she even went on to sue my dad for physically abusing me and my brother (not because she wanted to take care of us, but because she wanted to see my dad suffer) using a birthmark that looked like a bruise which my brother has in his cheek as "evidence" and testifying made-up stuff. What pained me the most was that most people believed my mom simply because most kids prefer their mom over their dad, and ofc, why would you not trust a mom? For real, I was so fed up with the lawyers asking me over and over if I was telling the truth and I wasn't just saying what my dad was telling me to. Thanks to that my brother now has a trauma with courts lol.

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. There's nothing more awful than a parent doing that to a child.

 

[Pandaprewmaster325]

Yeah, my life isn't all flowers and rainbows but compared to some people here i'm living in goddamn paradise.

Yup feels the same way , worst case getting belted by father for being a menace and hitting a little kid with so many slaps his face turned red then as a punishment I got the belt treatment that was back in 2014 things so much better now even then getting the way of the belt sounds merciful to whatever some people had to go through here.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

I'm curious, what is your opinions on getting ink to cover up self-harm scars? I've been considering it, but I don't have any and it feels like a big step.

 

[Tonberry]

I'm curious, what is your opinions on getting ink to cover up self-harm scars? I've been considering it, but I don't have any and it feels like a big step.

If you want to put art on your body you should go for it! If it helps cover up scars you don’t want to see, I’d say it’s even better!

 

[Yousef]

I'm curious, what is your opinions on getting ink to cover up self-harm scars? I've been considering it, but I don't have any and it feels like a big step.

Sounds like a sweet idea, I vibe with it.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

I've considered this

Or this, as they have a lot of meaning to me, but it feels like a big step too.

 

[Antilocal123]

I'm curious, what is your opinions on getting ink to cover up self-harm scars? I've been considering it, but I don't have any and it feels like a big step.

Ink can potentially irritate the skin but if it’s fully healed then go for it, art looks cool on the body!

If you don’t have ink, I think you can use stuff like Dermablend? Makeup also works fine.

 

[Yousef]

Makeup also works fine.

Yes ?

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

Ink can potentially irritate the skin but if it’s fully healed then go for it, art looks cool on the body!

If you don’t have ink, I think you can use stuff like Dermablend? Makeup also works fine.

Nah, they're old and faded. I just get embarrassed a bit when people see them now.

It's more a symbolic gesture. Just a personal trophy to show how far I've come.

 

[Yousef]

Nah, they're old and faded. I just get embarrassed a bit when people see them now.

The heart sounds like a cute idea.

 

[Antilocal123]

Nah, they're old and faded. I just get embarrassed a bit when people see them now.

It's more a symbolic gesture. Just a personal trophy to show how far I've come.

Word, I get that, professional tattoo artists don’t have a problem with that but if you wanna use makeup just remember to avoid heavy layers!

All love <3

 

[Pandaprewmaster325]

I wonder why you would slice yourself

What be going on in people mind when they do that.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

I wonder why you would slice yourself

What be going on in people mind when they do that.

So numb and emotionally starved that you will do anything to feel something, or it was in my case. Then there's the really big ones, the purpose of those is self-explanatory.

All mine are over 12+ years old, I don't have that dog in me anymore, but I get it.

 

[Pandaprewmaster325]

So numb and emotionally starved that you will do anything to feel something, or it was in my case. Then there's the really big ones, the purpose of those is self-explanatory.

All mine are over 12+ years old, I don't have that dog in me anymore, but I get it.

Must be in a pretty bad place in life to be that desperate , had my fair share of problems with feeling anything else other than laughing but I never thought about cutting ma self.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

Must be in a pretty bad place in life to be that desperate , had my fair share of problems with feeling anything else other than laughing but I never thought about cutting ma self.

I don't wanna get too dark and jeopardize the thread again, but intense depression of that magnitude is like being in a high-rise building that's on fire with no way out. At a certain point, the window seems like a valid exit.

I'm grateful I'm still here, grateful I can joke and smile and laugh and share things I love now. It's why I feel I have to step in when I hear familiar words and platitudes of self-loathing, I don't want anyone to hurt like I once did.

 

[Pandaprewmaster325]

I don't wanna get too dark and jeopardize the thread again, but intense depression of that magnitude is like being in a high-rise building that's on fire with no way out. At a certain point, the window seems like a valid exit.

I'm grateful I'm still here, grateful I can joke and smile and laugh and share things I love now. It's why I feel I have to step in when I hear familiar words and platitudes of self-loathing, I don't want anyone to hurt like I once did.

Damn that sucks seems like your experiences in that area can be helpful to some here glad you with us and im glad I got to meet you.

When I hear about a person who ended it I always think "man they went out too early life could have had more in store for them"

 

[ObscureJigglypuff]

I don't wanna get too dark and jeopardize the thread again, but intense depression of that magnitude is like being in a high-rise building that's on fire with no way out. At a certain point, the window seems like a valid exit.

I'm grateful I'm still here, grateful I can joke and smile and laugh and share things I love now. It's why I feel I have to step in when I hear familiar words and platitudes of self-loathing, I don't want anyone to hurt like I once did.

I'm happy that you're in a better place in life now.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

I'm happy that you're in a better place in life now.

Thank you, truly.

I'm glad I found this place, there's so many lovely people here.

 

[Antilocal123]

Does anyone else have those days where they don’t want to do anything yet kinda do it but they do it half-assedly so the “do” isn’t up to par with your usual “do”?

 

[Denmdm]

Does anyone else have those days where they don’t want to do anything yet kinda do it but they do it half-assedly so the “do” isn’t up to par with your usual “do”?

Yess it's pretty common, and I have this desire to get better and better at stuff and do almost perfect at everything so when I have one of those days I end up being blamed (by myself too) for not trying as hard as I once did...

 

[Antilocal123]

Yess it's pretty common, and I have this desire to get better and better at stuff and do almost perfect at everything so when I have one of those days I end up being blamed (by myself too) for not trying as hard as I once did...

Word, that self doubt roasts you HEAVY on those days lmao

 

[RanmyakuIchi's iconRanmyakuIchi]

I get this sometimes too, just a general feeling when I wake up that I'd hit the fast-forward button if life had one.

Word, that self doubt roasts you HEAVY on those days lmao

Yeah, It's rough. If I try to rest, I feel guilty for being lazy. If I try to push through it, I feel guilty for not being my best.

 

[Antilocal123]

I get this sometimes too, just a general feeling when I wake up that I'd hit the fast-forward button if life had one.


Yeah, It's rough. If I try to rest, I feel guilty for being lazy. If I try to push through it, I feel guilty for not being my best.

I think the best solution for me is that it’s temporary, sometimes it gives me a boost to do better the next day or just remember to take care of myself.

Doesn’t mean it won’t happen again but it’s a nice silver lining!

 

[Tonberry]

Does anyone else have those days where they don’t want to do anything yet kinda do it but they do it half-assedly so the “do” isn’t up to par with your usual “do”?

Yess it's pretty common, and I have this desire to get better and better at stuff and do almost perfect at everything so when I have one of those days I end up being blamed (by myself too) for not trying as hard as I once did...

I’ve recently had to come to accept that I’m a perfectionist (the bad kind). I’ve denied it forever, but when I work on a piece or an asset and it doesn’t hit right the first attempt, I just give up.
Admitting that I have to stop working like that, and spending more time planning how I work, has helped me create more finished stuff.
I’m confident in my skills as an illustrator and I always want to grow, and I think my quick and snappy workflow is a good quality, but I have to stop and smell the roses if something doesn’t look quite right, instead of losing steam and throwing the whole thing away.