Random I hope you all find peace.

[RageBurner]

Don't look for peace. Instead, push back against the strife around you. Make the lives of those around you better, and peace will find you, instead.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Don't look for peace. Instead, push back against the strife around you. Make the lives of those around you better, and peace will find you, instead.

I worry about the others but I heard worrying about yourself is better so idk

 

[OmegaPunch's icon OmegaPunch OmegaPunch]

I worry about the others but I heard worrying about yourself is better so idk

You need to strike a balance between taking care of others and taking care of yourself.
Lean towards one more than the other, and the balance breaks.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's icon RanmyakuIchi RanmyakuIchi]

Don't look for peace. Instead, push back against the strife around you. Make the lives of those around you better, and peace will find you, instead.

I love this, just want to say.

 

[RageBurner]

I worry about the others but I heard worrying about yourself is better so idk

All of us have our own paths. It's not ever a finished endeavor, but balance is important.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Theres too much noise where I live


I can't breath well through my nose


I get distracted too easily

I can't think of anything aside from being tall and good at math

So I guess meditation was discarded from the beggining

 

[fake-kun]

Don't look for peace. Instead, push back against the strife around you. Make the lives of those around you better, and peace will find you, instead.

Then I'll never know peace, I guess, since my presence doesn't improve anybody's life.

No, I'm not being self-loathing, I'm just saying it how it is.

 

[RageBurner]

Then I'll never know peace, I guess, since my presence doesn't improve anybody's life.

No, I'm not being self-loathing, I'm just saying it how it is.

Even though this is a microcosm compared to life at large, people here like you, myself included, so you are improving lives, the way I see it,

 

[Merchant]

awesome, I appreciate it bro.

accident i was replying to rage burner, obviously dont do that.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Even though this is a microcosm compared to life at large, people here like you, myself included, so you are improving lives, the way I see it,

And I should go fuck off since i'm a minor

 

[RanmyakuIchi's icon RanmyakuIchi RanmyakuIchi]

Then I'll never know peace, I guess, since my presence doesn't improve anybody's life.

No, I'm not being self-loathing, I'm just saying it how it is.

I can't speak for others, but I enjoy and appreciate the company of our Number 1 based Bass enjoyer.

 

[Merchant]

Don't look for peace. Instead, push back against the strife around you. Make the lives of those around you better, and peace will find you, instead.

awesome, I appreciate it.

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And I should go fuck off since i'm a minor

im just tryna look out for u like no one did for me, these people dont seem all that bad, but there are mfs on here that i dont think are. not in this thread tho.

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And I should go fuck off since i'm a minor

if you had not going declaring you were to everyone, i would not of said any of that, it is specifically cus u telling them. Just stay anonymous if ur underage, or the internet gonna fck ur life up.

 

[Rhent]

Nice bait

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

if you had not going declaring you were to everyone, i would not of said any of that, it is specifically cus u telling them. Just stay anonymous if ur underage, or the internet gonna fck ur life up.

I'm being anonymous

 

[Antilocal123]

Bitch I’m perfect I'm at peace myself already.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Bitch I’m perfect I'm at peace myself already.

 

[Mr. Daddy]

Me and the boys on our way to finding peace:

Me on the left!​

 

[Raziya The Seeker]

I won't, but thanks!

I can only find peace through a lobotomy, drugs, smoking, vaping, amnesia or hypnosis

...but, I am sorry y'all feel this way. Believe me. As someone with depression and anger issues, I know what it's like to feel like nothing ever gets better. Especially after this past decade.

As for meditation? I find guided meditations and especially ambient music help me. I don't do well with the quiet due to my always-on, always-talking mind. But if there's someone's voice to give me visuals, or there's evocative music to help me zone out, it me helps a whole lot.

Here's some suggestions that I've used myself and adore. I highly recommend using headphones, earbuds, whatever to really listen in deeply. Some of these are meant for such close listening, due to binaural beats or other such buzzwords.

Spoiler: The suggestions

Know that these aren't a silver bullet, but could help ease the pain. Other layers of protection can help where available -- medications if needed, avoiding sensitive topics, talk therapy or even just talking to a loved one about one's troubles. But bear in mind that none of these, even in layers, are perfect.

But. I hope they'll be much better than facing pain without any anesthesia, so to speak.

While I highly suggest this next idea with the utmost caution, in a controlled environment? Well... don't be afraid of anger. Just be afraid it consuming you, and making you do harmful things. Know that anger comes from a part of you that loves deeply, and doesn't want to see harm being brought to what you love. There's good reason I'll still throw on some nu-metal here and there to deal with a bitter mood.

I still got to get a proper standing punching bag. Fun for boffer LARP and martial arts practice, fun for wailing on if I get really mad. Exercise can also help release pent-up aggressive energy in a conducive, non-destructive way.

Other times, in a similar vein? Allow yourself to be sad. It's hard for me to cry these days, but music has absolutely brought out my tears. Sometimes unintentionally, songs that wound up making me feel passionate and not necessarily sad or feel love. Ones that wound up encouraging me to keep going, and made me feel like I'm not alone in struggling. There's good reason I adore bards in fantasy -- there is a "magic" to music that just about anyone could attest to, from ancient times to the modern day.

Good luck and best wishes.

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

talk therapy or even just talking to a loved one about one's troubles.

NO

There's good reason I'll still throw on some nu-metal here and there to deal with a bitter mood.

Metal music is just people yelling into a microphone with some intense guitar in the background anyways

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Other times, in a similar vein? Allow yourself to be sad. It's hard for me to cry these days, but music has absolutely brought out my tears. Sometimes unintentionally, songs that wound up making me feel passionate and not necessarily sad or feel love. Ones that wound up encouraging me to keep going, and made me feel like I'm not alone in struggling. There's good reason I adore bards in fantasy -- there is a "magic" to music that just about anyone could attest to, from ancient times to the modern day.

I hate most non-game music

 

[Raziya The Seeker]

Metal music is just people yelling into a microphone with some intense guitar in the background anyways

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I hate most non-game music

I mean... true dat. Still, there are plenty of evocative video game songs to deal with harsh emotion too. Here's another favorite of mine. I listened to it a bit too much last year, but it helped.

I will also say this. It took me way, way too long to get to where I am now. I'm still not "cured". I've got my own tragic backstory and everything. Don't believe me? Time for some aspie bluntness and TMI!

Been bullied through most of school; my best friend going to college and me struggling to make friends; being a NEET and frankly a loser in my twenties; an altercation because my butting heads with Dad reached a critical point; being too busted up to bother trying to become self-sufficient for a year at my aunt's; being brainwashed by social media zealots until I found out in the "Summer of Love 2020" how full of it they were; falling out with an online community or three that I used to belong in; having lost all of my childhood friends, and hating some of their guts for who they became; being a neighborhood freak so I can't even get myself to hang out at the local geek shop; falling out with other online friends because they invited a little douchewad who kept provoking my personal problems and because they chose this twat with the charisma of a brick over me, forgive my jealousy.

All the while, trying to fix others and not myself! And having enough of a conscience left to feel bad about the times I've really, truly been a fucking asshole! #FirstWorldProblems, am I right?!

...CJ, you remind me a lot like me in my past. The healers always have trouble healing themselves. I'm not trying to attack you. I just don't want you to make the same kinds of mistakes I made. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemies. But I also know that this sort of thing takes time and experience. It fucking sucks that it never clicked for me for so long. We all have our own paths to take, and our own problems to deal with.

I want you to believe in yourself. To do that, at worst? I want to shock people out of their self-defeating nature if I have to. Be an ethical asshole, in such ways, than just use my wrath to bully people. Believe me, I've done that more than enough for one lifetime. Suffering begot suffering.

Sometimes you just need someone to believe the best in you, and want to see that come forth. For me, that is my grandmother and was my grandfather. I only hope the latter is proud of me for finally becoming a semi-functional adult now, because I'm loath to say he was for the past few years.

I'm not trying to talk down to you, or anything of the sort. I just believe that if there's something that can be done to help others, one is morally obligated to do it. This is one such obligation of mine.

CJ, don't give up.

 

[coolguy21]

I will be in peace when i am no longer flesh, I will embrace peace when i am no longer human

 

[Xdqwerty Xdqwerty]

Here's another favorite of mine. I listened to it a bit too much last year, but it helped.

I know isnt that related to the topic but I love live a live although I only played the snes version and didnt even beat it

 

[Deleted member 13897]

General is back! And I want to give my two cents on this thread:

I sometimes find peace by challenging myself to express empathy even when it’s really hard. Sometimes I can. I try to tone down my inherent reactiveness by reminding myself the hardest thing I’ll ever have to do is stay kind to a world I continue to want the best from. And that everyone is full of hope and love and hurt and pain just like me. Imagine someone you hate eating an ice cream cone alone. It kind of makes my chest hurt, makes it harder to be angry.

When I can’t do that, I reject peace. Sometimes rejecting peace and being the person to say “NO”, “STOP” or “I won’t allow you to get away with that” is the best way to maintain the peace and dignity of others and yourself. Luckily, that’s infrequent. For example, I’m estranged from my family—I had to protect my peace by leaving. I’ll quietly allow them to remain the people they are without further challenge, and show myself compassion by having no part in it. I’d say everybody wins but….sometimes people don’t get to win. Sometimes losing is peaceful. I also play a lot of Tetris, punch and yell into pillows so I don’t break things again, dissociate on the stairclimber, or lift.

I’m still trying to figure peace out. I think for me, it helps to acknowledge life will never be consistently peaceful, and remaining at peace is not only a lifelong effort, but deeply personal and varies. I think to truly be at peace, you can’t suppress or neglect your anger. Your anger is a part of you that reacts to injustices and compels you to act, ignoring this will breed resentment toward the world and yourself. I listen to my Anger as a divine compass, but I have to use my head and my very deliberate and practiced patience to address the situation. And sometimes I just crash out. Alone, usually, preferably.

Peace is something I want badly and have been through hell and back trying to find. But it always gets away from us I think because it’s like an angel that can’t be held.

 

[Cheela Cheela Cheela's icon]

Inside of there are two wolves:

Lets be all silly and happy together <3

I really want that everybody here feels less lonely and find peace in being great with only themselves first

 

[Deleted member 884]

I hope before I hit 40.

Don't look for peace. Instead, push back against the strife around you. Make the lives of those around you better, and peace will find you, instead.

I wish the ones around me would be better without me, it's what I hope for me and them.