Don't worry about what anyone else says or thinks. I prefer old school games. For me Final fantasy 7 and ocarina of time are the best games ever made. I play symphony of the night and other old 2d metroidvanias each year or so. But I still love some of the FS games. If you wrote this post, the chances are you have an itch to see what the fuss is about
In my personal experience the ones to play are Sekiro, Bloodborne, DS3 and Elden Ring.
You say that you find FS games clunky, then stick to Sekiro and Bloodborne. These are must play games, not just for gameplay but unrivalled atmosphere, world design and enemy design + ai.
Yes, they're challenging, especially Sekiro where you cannot level up. However they're also two of the most visually stunning games I've played, with phenomenal, lovingly crafted environments. Bloodborne is hands down the best Gothic architecture/world design I've ever seen in a game or possibly any movie or film. Iconic.
Story wise Sekiro is a bit more of a conventional story with lore to discover. Bloodborne is almost entirely lore with snippets of very brief story/ npc interactions. Both are masterfully done. I didn't care much for the story itself, but the world building and lore is cool.
Sekiro is the best of the bunch for me. Fast paced, visceral and beautiful environments to behold.
If you like gothic stuff, Victorian horror and Lovecraft stuff, you MUST play Bloodborne. It's like the ultimate rendition of what nightmare creatures wanted to be, if you remember that old game...