Do you ever feel embarrassed when you play dating sims?

[Fighting Mochi]

Do you ever feel like theirs something wrong with you or that this feels odd to play a game about dating? Like I enjoy these games, especially the older ones on the PC98. But ever now and then, I get this weird feeling that "I could be doing this in real life instead of grinding it out for this simulator game".

 

[X y b e r - S k u ll]

No. If you like something, you shouldn't feel ashamed or have any kind of insecure feelings. Fuck what anyone else says or thinks, be free.

 

[gastd]

No and why should one. If it makes you happy, then it's your thing.

 

[Lord Kit]

I've never really played a game about dating but as a boy growing up there were a few times I felt embarrassed about dating side mechanics and would actively try to not have people around when it happened.

Now that I'm older, I don't much care. And reflecting on it from your point of view, I don't think you should feel any certain way unless it's really detrimental to your life. Like the women who read 10 romance novels a month, I don't think the books are a problem.

Now if you start turning down opportunities constantly so you can grind out your latest Lover in x or y game and actively ignoring your life outside of the games, then maybe you should have a bit of shame and use that as motivation to touch grass regularly.

All that being said, who the hell am I? Not sure my opinion should carry weight.

 

[kaimana777]

Not once. Ever.

 

[HydraSavior]

I used to. But if there's one thing I learned from the first hour of Tim Rogers' six hour review of Tokimeki Memorial on YouTube, it's this: you have to be yourself, even if that means doing something someone else perceives of as "weird" or "abnormal." Within limits, of course. Don't hurt anybody. But for real: if you can't find it within yourself to invest yourself in the things you LIKE doing, you're NEVER going to become a complete person.

 

[Rocket2049]

i mean are we talking 18+ dating sims then yeah definitely go out and do it in real life lol
joking real life sucks don't do it

i don't care, i don't specifically play dating sim games either and honestly (actively) avoid romance stuff in other games if i can, persona games, all the SAO games, elder scrolls, fable, to name a few
i'm in it for the gameplay

now that i'm getting old i kinda don't like too much of the harem anime/games with the 99% female cast anime because it gets dumb and actually repetitive at this point.

 

[SamanthaSamantha's icon]

Why would I? If I'm playing something, it's because I expect to have a lot of fun with it (whether or not this actually happens is up for debate, but the core sentiment remains the same: I'm not embarrassed by my hobbies... They are my hobbies!).

 

[RestoredaftrLostv2]

Nope, only dating sim I play is Part of the Story of season/harvest moon and or multiple indie crafting, farming, and collecting combo marriage sim games. I own tons of those and feel zero shame. AND yes, you do get laid in these games as you can get a child of your own (and rune factory 2 lets you continue doing the same with your child).

 

[CheesyExplosive]

Do you ever feel like theirs something wrong with you or that this feels odd to play a game about dating? Like I enjoy these games, especially the older ones on the PC98. But ever now and then, I get this weird feeling that "I could be doing this in real life instead of grinding it out for this simulator game".

*sigh* this remind me of how i select a female in a fighting game/wrestling game and some guy says: why are you choosing a girl? god! let me play in piece!

 

[shaggi]

Not really. I rarely play games with dating mechanics, but they don't embarrass me in any way. This is simply simulation of specific part of life. If dating someone is normal in real life, why it would have been embarrassing on a screen?

 

[contrail_]

I get this weird feeling that "I could be doing this in real life instead of grinding it out for this simulator game".

Don't you feel that way when you play GTA as well?

 

[Brandon Heat]

Nah, I enjoy, every single part, yes, I could do that in real life but... Come on, I'm just a Chud

 

[ArchienineArchienine's icon]

No, i don't usually play these games.

 

[CheesyExplosive]

Don't you feel that way when you play GTA as well?

You love rockstar games too much.

 

[Mileena]

I have absolutely zero shame, no one should. Why be bothered by other people’s opinions/judgment? Just be yourself, like what you like and if people want to make you feel ashamed in any way it’s cuz they have a shitty life full of insecurities so they’re projecting on you.

 

[Fighting Mochi]

The more I read these comments, the more I feel this is a me thing than anything else. I dunno, I just feel like a loser at times whenever I mention these types of game to anyone that isn’t the target demographic. The odd looks or dismissive comments just kinda make feel like I shouldn’t be playing these games despite enjoying them.

 

[Tsukishima]

After playing a fair and few games with dating sim and relationship mechanics, such as the Persona series and Rune Factory 4, it's not embarrassment and moreso something feels 'off'.

I struggle trying to make up sense and to elaborate more on the feeling, but I can elaborate on the fact it's not tied to anything of how I can be perceived as I don't actually care about things like that.

I don't think video games and dating sims can actually hold a harmonious balance. Of course, I can adhere too and feel 'love' for a character from anime and video games but it's always fleeting. Mayhaps that's a better way to describe why something always feels off.
The limited conversation, the feeling that the girl or boy in the dating sim always has such intense positive emotions about you. it's smoke and mirrors. Like walking into an attraction and knowing how every single part operates and creates the entertainment.

 

[LiberoVulpesLiberoVulpes's icon]

Nope, Dating Sims are fun, and I like waifus.

I stand that Simgirls is the best DNA² fangame ever made.

I also stand for the glory of emuera.

Never forget our hero.

If you know you know.

 

[daido]

The more I read these comments, the more I feel this is a me thing than anything else. I dunno, I just feel like a loser at times whenever I mention these types of game to anyone that isn’t the target demographic. The odd looks or dismissive comments just kinda make feel like I shouldn’t be playing these games despite enjoying them.

It’s probably one of those things that people who don’t play them just won’t get. Don’t let that stop you from enjoying them though. True Love 95 was one I played as a teenager, and it’s still one of the games I remember most fondly, and I’d be sad if I never had that experience—especially if it was because someone judged me for it.

If it’s something else, like feeling like you’re maybe missing out on the real thing, that could be worth thinking about. But if it’s just that you feel like you “shouldn’t” be enjoying these games because they’re about something you could be doing in real life, I wouldn’t worry about it. At the end of the day they’re just fun games that give you some nice feels, and you might remember them fondly for many years to come.

 

[Mileena]

The more I read these comments, the more I feel this is a me thing than anything else. I dunno, I just feel like a loser at times whenever I mention these types of game to anyone that isn’t the target demographic. The odd looks or dismissive comments just kinda make feel like I shouldn’t be playing these games despite enjoying them.

A lot of people feel that way, I used to but then I stopped caring years ago cuz really, it’s a waste of time. I don’t make fun of people for what they like, it would be a boring world if we all liked the same things. Be proud of what you like, fuck other people’s negativity, it’s just a reflection of self hatred.

 

[Graw]

I haven't really played them since i was a teenager playing shitty flash ones on newgrounds but I don't see why it would be embarrassing unless you're playing porn ones in public or something. They're not really like dating an actual woman anyway. They're more like choose your own adventure books with meters you need to fill to see all the scenes. Personally I think those kinds of games are mostly boring but i don't really care if other people play them. They're still just video games.

 

[HydraSavior]

I think it was the great contemporary philosopher James Rolfe who once said something like: if you know what bush to burn in Zelda, or if you know sports stats, we're all still nerds.


We all need to embrace our inner nerd to be happy. Don't destroy the cringe, destroy the part of you that cringes.

 

[CheesyExplosive]

The more I read these comments, the more I feel this is a me thing than anything else. I dunno, I just feel like a loser at times whenever I mention these types of game to anyone that isn’t the target demographic. The odd looks or dismissive comments just kinda make feel like I shouldn’t be playing these games despite enjoying them.

AAAAAAHHHHHHHHGGGG!!!! don't worry about it people justor because they can or they are free to do so. Everyone is a dipshit that behave like judgemental intolerant scumbags for all the wrong reasons all because what you have something has disturb their plot of how he/she want to live their life perfectly on what they see fit.

Me eat a slice of pizza:

Some random person that i don't know: hey can i have some pizza?
Me: No
Some random person that i don't know: Smash my face in all because he/she expected me to share

and now decided to become a petty villain for the rest of his/her life because they are evil mofos that assume that im the only life that he/she want to murder since he/she has been searching for someone that they want to terrorize.

And you wonder why everyone has become a shut-in for years....

 

[Evaccaneer Doom]

no lol