An apology (with reasons and lessons)

[Prism_Red]

I personally don't see what you need to apologize for? But hey, every moment is an experience, don't beat yourself up over it, from every mistake learnt, you become a better person than you are before.

 

[Donte]

BUT

 

[Lee__Kanker]

Dont be so hard on yourself

 

[Stingy Perry]

There’s nothing wrong about what you said on that thread. What you said back there was relatable and valid issue that some of us experience one point in time, again don’t beat yourself too much okay.

 

[DunkeyKong]

I just woke up and wow…that's a lot of comments! Not complaining though, I'll try my best to reply to each one!

Dude, this is internet, everyone has said some bad things before(i might have said more bad than good but oh well), don't sweat it, your positive presence outweighs heavily anything bad you think you might have said here, also there is no real crime in thought, it's fine to have subversive or immoral thoughts and desires, what isn't fine is trying to execute them, don't worry.
Also, i like this quote in Haibane Renmei:
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Yeah that's right, everyone does. I think my mind can get a little crazy sometimes but yeah I'm kinda glad I didn't do most of the negative stuff I think about

That's a really great quote too! Thank you so much

This thought of yours, phrased so spontaneously and sincerely, reflects a sensitive and precisely respectful personality toward others. Only those who have doubts or remorse about their actions are people worthy of the name, unlike certain people who are always sure that they are right and never wrong. I read with pleasure this reflection of yours, and if I may say so, you need not apologize to anyone, since you have something so profound to say, video games aside...
Finally, as for grammatical or wording errors, I cannot imagine how many I make myself, since I always rely on a translator!

Thank you, I'm still not sure if I'm worthy of anything but I agree with most of these things. I'm glad that you love reading this! Even though it was a bit all over the place

And yes, it can be a bit hard to use a translator. Despite the mistakes though, I can still see what you're trying to say and understand clearly! And I hope you can speak the language someday without using a translator!

Nothing to forgive my man we all have days for better and for worse. It´s okey to be human. We say thinks we don´t mean we do thinks with good intention can some times can come off wrong.

So don´t sweat it okey your not me at least muhaha im far from human. Im a muppet

A muppet is telling me it's okay to be human?! That's crazy! Jokes aside though, thank you for that. I do wonder sometimes, doing something even with good intentions can be a wrong thing to do. Still a great advice! (Even from a muppet)

This is the best advice I could give anyone. Anger, melancholy, and self-loathing can be deeply addictive behaviors, but you deserve so much better than that. Before you beat yourself up, please ask yourself "Would I say these kinds of things to my Best Friend/Family/Loved Ones?"

Wow! Another great advice from you, are you a philosopher? Because you're full of…wisdom? Great thoughts? Maybe a great person too!

I really appreciate every advice that you gave to me and probably the others as well. I just realized that these behaviors are really common for me and the others like my family. But they have been dealing with a much, much more painful stuff and I really respect them for that

Yeah, I'm not even sure what you're apologizing about, but if you're realizing you feel like you've made a mistake, you're probably far ahead of many people. Then you learn from it and go on. I think we've all said something we wish we hadn't, and sometimes that does burn a bridge forever, but the best thing to do is turn that into a positive instead of sweating the negative side for too long.

I read a thing recently that I thought was pretty wise, that said you should count to ten before you reply to something online. That way it's not a gut reaction and will be more in line with what you're trying to say. Wish I'd seen it 25 years ago, I probably would've pissed way fewer people off.

You're right man, I think changing it to something more positive can be a bit of challenge since I lack positivity. But it is much better to try that than staying in the negative side for too long

That counting is a great idea too! I think if I actually take my time to make any, then maybe I can avoid making mistakes (even though I would still add something more). Also, 25 years ago? I'm sure they would still forgive you not long ago, but if they can't then I'm sorry. But if I was them, then I would still forgive you despite that

Seems like you were scared that if something happened to these people you disliked, the investigators will find the thread of what you've said, and you'll be the #1 suspect until they could prove you didn't do anything. Idk, maybe I just watched too many Investigation Discovery shows.

Now that I think about it, it could be that…maybe?

But honestly, I think I got carried away with these hatred I have. That's interesting to think about though, maybe they can use it to…y'know? plotting stuff? Also, me and my grandma love watching those stuff for some reason lmao. I love your comment!

Even if I don't understand you, I can respect you for this. It also made me smile when I saw my post was a lesson for you, the wisdom of Ahlul Bayt is truly immense. Keep learning, brother!

Yeah, it was a great lesson! Thank you for showing me that, I really appreciate his wisdom. And yes, I will keep learning!

I actually just thought about your thread. We had some weird customers today and then on my way home I read something about scalpers. That got me thinking about whether or not hate to towards a person could ever be justified or even encouraged. Do certain people deserve malice? Do some actions require repercussions? The answer is obviously yes to the last, but the former I found more difficult to argue for. There are definitely people who behave in a way that would agitate even the most stoic among us, naturally. Nevertheless, a world without anger and hate would still be able to enforce order and deal with lawbreakers, I'd say it might even be able to do so better and guaranteed more rationally. If this is indeed the case, then should we not do our best to purge hate from our hearts and instead try to find solace, even when confronted with stinky people.

Ignore the content of the former paragraph. What I wanted to demonstrate is that even questions or arguments made without serious contemplation beforehand, can inspire the mind. I've had had stupidly long arguments go off of a stupid comment made in jest. And yours wasn't even stupid.

I personally don't see the need for an apology, but you did see one and then you actually apologized. That shows more moral strength than most people, including me, have. It by far outweighs any statements made by you in your other thread.

Also, scalpers can go suffocate on their wares, 'cause I ain't giving them money.

That's a really great advice and story. I'm actually speechless and I don't know how exactly can I respond to that, but I really wanted to thank you for sharing your experience

I also wanted to thank you for the compliment, sometimes even I don't know the amount of moral strength that I, but I'll try my best to become better! (Also yes, scalpers is…y'know? scalpers)

Oh @DunkeyKong... as someone who always makes mistakes, i would love to write a book praising what you wrote here!

But instead, i write the soul of it in here:
Thank you for writing such a beautiful post.
I feel so proud to have a great friend like you!

Thank you, I appreciate what you wrote here too, as short as it is. I'm glad to have you as a friend too

Moment of anger can make you write hard or nasty stuff, don't stuff it , sometimes its just okey to write it out and be heard. We all have or had people that we hate their guts

Yes that's true. Starting now though, I think I should've focus on saying something more positive. But I appreciate your understanding

@DunkeyKong, you are a great person, and wise words...
You are giving the example to follow.

You are a great example too, a great artist and a great friend

I am so confused reading all this.

Sorry! It is a bit (or really) messy. In short, I was trying to say that I'm sorry for what I've done. I'm so sorry for you confusion (my English can also be quite bad)

I echo the sentiments of the rest of the board. There was no need to apologize. You gave us all something to think about. I think we can all benefit from thinking about the effect we have on our neighbors a bit more.

You're right, I don't need to…maybe? I don't know. I want to apologize because I wanted to confirm that there's no bad blood between all of us. Again you're not wrong, maybe I'm just a bit worried that someone would still hold a grudge secretly. And yes, I like to benefit from something like that too

I'm glad I can give you all something to think about! I'm grateful to have met everyone here

 

[RageBurner]

Self awareness is an important skill, but, really, there's nothing to apologize for, as others have said. Everyone hopes to be heard, and that's one of the reasons this place exists, and why it thrives.

 

[DunkeyKong]

I personally don't see what you need to apologize for? But hey, every moment is an experience, don't beat yourself up over it, from every mistake learnt, you become a better person than you are before.

Thank you, I'll try to become better. And you're right, every moment is an experience, doesn't matter if it's bad or good. It's part of the process after all

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Thanks for checking out anyway! I appreciate that

Dont be so hard on yourself

Thank you man, I'll try

There’s nothing wrong about what you said on that thread. What you said back there was relatable and valid issue that some of us experience one point in time, again don’t beat yourself too much okay.

Yeah maybe nothing wrong with that, but some of my wordings are a bit too much. Like I was saying cruel stuff for no reason. But again, thanks for your understanding

Self awareness is an important skill, but, really, there's nothing to apologize for, as others have said. Everyone hopes to be heard, and that's one of the reasons this place exists, and why it thrives.

That's so true man, this place is just something else. I might be (or I am) repeating myself here, but I just like to make an apology, even to someone I didn't hurt, to confirm that they're okay with me

Anyway, I wanted to thank all of you here for telling me your advice, wisdoms, praises, experience and so much more

I hope this whole thread with these posts can be a great knowledge for anyone that wanted to learn more about forgiveness and maybe something more than that.

I'm so grateful, I really am. For all of this and for something great that y'all have done before, thank you so much