An apology (with reasons and lessons)

[DunkeyKong]

(Just a heads up: this is…long, like article length I might say. Also sorry if there's a English and grammar mistakes)

It's about a thread I've made before, titled "have you ever felt this?" or something like that. For most people, this isn't supposed to be a big of a deal and that's true. I could just "forget about it" or "don't think about it", if I could. Unfortunately though, when it comes to mistakes I've made, it's a bit hard to forget and I tend to overthink sometimes (I don't know if it's a genetic issue, but it's probably just a skill issue)

(What's so bad about it? What mistakes?)
Well for context for the thread I've made before, basically it's about me ranting and just hating this and that people in my town for not being respectful everyday. I then go to sleep after I didn't or couldn't notice anything was wrong with it. But after I woke up, I noticed some of my wordings and sentences are a bit…unnecessary. Like "see them suffer" and "that's why Batman would leave them at 1 HP", it does sound a bit too much. I try to edit it but it was too late, it was such a stupid thing to add and do

(If it was such a stupid thing to do, then why do it?)
Well…I didn't know. I never think twice before making a thread (a bit ironic for an overthinker), maybe because I got a bit too comfortable with this site, forum or place (whatever you want to call it). I tend to let out a bit of emotion when I wrote something to a site I'm attached to

(Why do I feel so bad about it?)
Many reasons, but the most important reason would be that, I don't want this site to get a bad image. Yup, all that talk because of this one…reason (my bad everyone). I just don't want this place to be seen as the bad kind of forum I used to visit before. This site is much, much better than that despite some flaws

Ah and of course, why would I wrote this whole essay? Well, I just wanted you guys to know how sorry I am. I'm sorry if I've ever done or said anything bad to any of you without noticing. Sometimes I just like to yap a lot and keep rambling about something really random. I'm sorry for not being consistent in making art or sentences that are easier to understand

And lastly, sorry for making all of you read…well, all this

(So where's the lessons?)
Right, of course! I've learned a lot from most of the members, most of them took it seriously too. I still kinda like the unserious ones, they passed the vibe check

But the lessons that I got from that thread was

"Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness. But because you deserve peace"

"Learning patience can be a difficult experience, but once conquered, you will find life is easier"

"Show respect even to people who don't deserve it, not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours"

And my favorite one

"Nevermind what others do, do better than yourself, beat your own record, from day to day, and you are a success"

And the quote I've created (my bad if it already exist)

"Your mind can be your worst enemy, your greatest power and your best friend"

(Sorry if some or most of these was bad and a bit of a mess)

Anyway! A lot of sorry today. I actually don't know if I wanted to post this because it's a bit (or very) unusual one, especially for me to write it this long, but I'm done thinking about it so (also, I gotta thank @Waffles for his understanding. I wish I could have his level of understanding and knowledge, he's a really great man, and y'all are great too!)

I also just wanted to start this new month with some positive note ("some"…yeah right me). Because there have been a lot of chain of bad events happening, and I don't want to stay down just because of that. Anyway, if this message isn't clear enough then

I just hope that you all can forgive me, and I hope you all can accept my apology as well. Let's be better together, even during hard times!

 

[Cu-Neo]

You didn't do anything to me but I still forgive you, you're just a human everyone makes mistakes, it's better to admit ours flaws than keep it quiet ?.

 

[RanmyakuIchi's icon RanmyakuIchi RanmyakuIchi]

You don't have anything to feel sorry for, friend. These feelings are perfectly human, and the fact that you reflect on them shows you're a good person. Be kind to yourself.

 

[Deleted member 25310]

That's... Nice? Don't know the necessity of making an apology thread, you could have just DMed the people that helped you thanking them, but you do you I guess.

 

[DunkeyKong]

You didn't do anything to me but I still forgive you, you're just a human everyone makes mistakes, it's better to admit ours flaws than keep it quiet ?.

Thank you man, I appreciate that
And you're right, better to admit than staying quiet

 

[thanonyx thanonyx]

"To make no mistakes is not in the power of man; but from their errors and mistakes the wise and good learn wisdom for the future."

- Plutarch

 

[Naltic]

Read the quote in my signature. It's fine to make mistakes because without them we won't know what good actions to do and so we will spiral into questioning what is what and what to do here and there. Learn from those mistakes. And from what I have seen/read, that is exactly what you did. Which is the best thing you could do.

 

[DunkeyKong]

You don't have anything to feel sorry for, friend. These feeling are perfectly human, and the fact that you reflect on them shows you're a good person. Be kind to yourself.

Thank you so much, you're really kind too! And yes, I will be kind to myself

That's... Nice? Don't know the necessity of making an apology thread, you could have just DMed the people that helped you thanking them, but you do you I guess.

It's not just about help though, I wanted to mentioned the lessons that I've learned from most of the members

But again, I just wanted to make it special for everyone here!

"To make no mistakes is not in the power of man; but from their errors and mistakes the wise and good learn wisdom for the future."

- Plutarch

Really great quote

Read the quote in my signature. It's fine to make mistakes because without them we won't know what good actions to do and so we will spiral into questioning what is what and what to do here and there. Learn from those mistakes. And from what I have seen/read, that is exactly what you did. Which is the best thing you could do.

Thank you so much man. It's definitely the best thing I could do right now

 

[Waffles's iconWaffles]

Even though you have nothing to apologize for, I'm gonna commend you for even trying.

It takes a big man to fight. It takes an even bigger man to apologize.

 

[DunkeyKong]

Even though you have nothing to apologize for, I'm gonna commend you for even trying.

It takes a big man to fight. It takes an even bigger man to apologize.

Thank you man, you're also one of the reasons why I think I should change for the better. You inspired me y'know! And I'm really, really grateful for that

 

[ZombieFish]

Honestly, you’re good, and I think we’re glad you’re here. Props for being self aware.

 

[DunkeyKong]

Honestly, you’re good, and I think we’re glad you’re here. Props for being self aware.

Thanks man, I'm glad you're here too

 

[goregoregoregoregoregore]

Dude, this is internet, everyone has said some bad things before(i might have said more bad than good but oh well), don't sweat it, your positive presence outweighs heavily anything bad you think you might have said here, also there is no real crime in thought, it's fine to have subversive or immoral thoughts and desires, what isn't fine is trying to execute them, don't worry.
Also, i like this quote in Haibane Renmei:

 

[_Lorenzo_]

(Just a heads up: this is…long, like article length I might say. Also sorry if there's a English and grammar mistakes)

It's about a thread I've made before, titled "have you ever felt this?" or something like that. For most people, this isn't supposed to be a big of a deal and that's true. I could just "forget about it" or "don't think about it", if I could. Unfortunately though, when it comes to mistakes I've made, it's a bit hard to forget and I tend to overthink sometimes (I don't know if it's a genetic issue, but it's probably just a skill issue)

(What's so bad about it? What mistakes?)
Well for context for the thread I've made before, basically it's about me ranting and just hating this and that people in my town for not being respectful everyday. I then go to sleep after I didn't or couldn't notice anything was wrong with it. But after I woke up, I noticed some of my wordings and sentences are a bit…unnecessary. Like "see them suffer" and "that's why Batman would leave them at 1 HP", it does sound a bit too much. I try to edit it but it was too late, it was such a stupid thing to add and do

(If it was such a stupid thing to do, then why do it?)
Well…I didn't know. I never think twice before making a thread (a bit ironic for an overthinker), maybe because I got a bit too comfortable with this site, forum or place (whatever you want to call it). I tend to let out a bit of emotion when I wrote something to a site I'm attached to

(Why do I feel so bad about it?)
Many reasons, but the most important reason would be that, I don't want this site to get a bad image. Yup, all that talk because of this one…reason (my bad everyone). I just don't want this place to be seen as the bad kind of forum I used to visit before. This site is much, much better than that despite some flaws

Ah and of course, why would I wrote this whole essay? Well, I just wanted you guys to know how sorry I am. I'm sorry if I've ever done or said anything bad to any of you without noticing. Sometimes I just like to yap a lot and keep rambling about something really random. I'm sorry for not being consistent in making art or sentences that are easier to understand

And lastly, sorry for making all of you read…well, all this

(So where's the lessons?)
Right, of course! I've learned a lot from most of the members, most of them took it seriously too. I still kinda like the unserious ones, they passed the vibe check

But the lessons that I got from that thread was

"Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness. But because you deserve peace"

"Learning patience can be a difficult experience, but once conquered, you will find life is easier"

"Show respect even to people who don't deserve it, not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours"

And my favorite one

"Nevermind what others do, do better than yourself, beat your own record, from day to day, and you are a success"

And the quote I've created (my bad if it already exist)

"Your mind can be your worst enemy, your greatest power and your best friend"

(Sorry if some or most of these was bad and a bit of a mess)

Anyway! A lot of sorry today. I actually don't know if I wanted to post this because it's a bit (or very) unusual one, especially for me to write it this long, but I'm done thinking about it so (also, I gotta thank @Waffles for his understanding. I wish I could have his level of understanding and knowledge, he's a really great man, and y'all are great too!)

I also just wanted to start this new month with some positive note ("some"…yeah right me). Because there have been a lot of chain of bad events happening, and I don't want to stay down just because of that. Anyway, if this message isn't clear enough then

I just hope that you all can forgive me, and I hope you all can accept my apology as well. Let's be better together, even during hard times!

This thought of yours, phrased so spontaneously and sincerely, reflects a sensitive and precisely respectful personality toward others. Only those who have doubts or remorse about their actions are people worthy of the name, unlike certain people who are always sure that they are right and never wrong. I read with pleasure this reflection of yours, and if I may say so, you need not apologize to anyone, since you have something so profound to say, video games aside...
Finally, as for grammatical or wording errors, I cannot imagine how many I make myself, since I always rely on a translator!?

 

[RanmyakuIchi's icon RanmyakuIchi RanmyakuIchi]

Thank you so much, you're really kind too! And yes, I will be kind to myself

This is the best advice I could give anyone. Anger, melancholy, and self-loathing can be deeply addictive behaviors, but you deserve so much better than that. Before you beat yourself up, please ask yourself "Would I say these kinds of things to my Best Friend/Family/Loved Ones?"

 

[bjork]

Yeah, I'm not even sure what you're apologizing about, but if you're realizing you feel like you've made a mistake, you're probably far ahead of many people. Then you learn from it and go on. I think we've all said something we wish we hadn't, and sometimes that does burn a bridge forever, but the best thing to do is turn that into a positive instead of sweating the negative side for too long.

I read a thing recently that I thought was pretty wise, that said you should count to ten before you reply to something online. That way it's not a gut reaction and will be more in line with what you're trying to say. Wish I'd seen it 25 years ago, I probably would've pissed way fewer people off.

 

[Bonkers225]

Seems like you were scared that if something happened to these people you disliked, the investigators will find the thread of what you've said, and you'll be the #1 suspect until they could prove you didn't do anything. Idk, maybe I just watched too many Investigation Discovery shows.

 

[KirboDeku]

Even if I don't understand you, I can respect you for this. It also made me smile when I saw my post was a lesson for you, the wisdom of Ahlul Bayt is truly immense. Keep learning, brother!

 

[Enian]

I actually just thought about your thread. We had some weird customers today and then on my way home I read something about scalpers. That got me thinking about whether or not hate to towards a person could ever be justified or even encouraged. Do certain people deserve malice? Do some actions require repercussions? The answer is obviously yes to the last, but the former I found more difficult to argue for. There are definitely people who behave in a way that would agitate even the most stoic among us, naturally. Nevertheless, a world without anger and hate would still be able to enforce order and deal with lawbreakers, I'd say it might even be able to do so better and guaranteed more rationally. If this is indeed the case, then should we not do our best to purge hate from our hearts and instead try to find solace, even when confronted with stinky people.

Ignore the content of the former paragraph. What I wanted to demonstrate is that even questions or arguments made without serious contemplation beforehand, can inspire the mind. I've had had stupidly long arguments go off of a stupid comment made in jest. And yours wasn't even stupid.

I personally don't see the need for an apology, but you did see one and then you actually apologized. That shows more moral strength than most people, including me, have. It by far outweighs any statements made by you in your other thread.

Also, scalpers can go suffocate on their wares, 'cause I ain't giving them money.

 

[JustLooking123]

Oh @DunkeyKong... as someone who always makes mistakes, i would love to write a book praising what you wrote here!

But instead, i write the soul of it in here:
Thank you for writing such a beautiful post. ?
I feel so proud to have a great friend like you! ?

 

[faceless0man]

(Just a heads up: this is…long, like article length I might say. Also sorry if there's a English and grammar mistakes)

It's about a thread I've made before, titled "have you ever felt this?" or something like that. For most people, this isn't supposed to be a big of a deal and that's true. I could just "forget about it" or "don't think about it", if I could. Unfortunately though, when it comes to mistakes I've made, it's a bit hard to forget and I tend to overthink sometimes (I don't know if it's a genetic issue, but it's probably just a skill issue)

(What's so bad about it? What mistakes?)
Well for context for the thread I've made before, basically it's about me ranting and just hating this and that people in my town for not being respectful everyday. I then go to sleep after I didn't or couldn't notice anything was wrong with it. But after I woke up, I noticed some of my wordings and sentences are a bit…unnecessary. Like "see them suffer" and "that's why Batman would leave them at 1 HP", it does sound a bit too much. I try to edit it but it was too late, it was such a stupid thing to add and do

(If it was such a stupid thing to do, then why do it?)
Well…I didn't know. I never think twice before making a thread (a bit ironic for an overthinker), maybe because I got a bit too comfortable with this site, forum or place (whatever you want to call it). I tend to let out a bit of emotion when I wrote something to a site I'm attached to

(Why do I feel so bad about it?)
Many reasons, but the most important reason would be that, I don't want this site to get a bad image. Yup, all that talk because of this one…reason (my bad everyone). I just don't want this place to be seen as the bad kind of forum I used to visit before. This site is much, much better than that despite some flaws

Ah and of course, why would I wrote this whole essay? Well, I just wanted you guys to know how sorry I am. I'm sorry if I've ever done or said anything bad to any of you without noticing. Sometimes I just like to yap a lot and keep rambling about something really random. I'm sorry for not being consistent in making art or sentences that are easier to understand

And lastly, sorry for making all of you read…well, all this

(So where's the lessons?)
Right, of course! I've learned a lot from most of the members, most of them took it seriously too. I still kinda like the unserious ones, they passed the vibe check

But the lessons that I got from that thread was

"Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness. But because you deserve peace"

"Learning patience can be a difficult experience, but once conquered, you will find life is easier"

"Show respect even to people who don't deserve it, not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours"

And my favorite one

"Nevermind what others do, do better than yourself, beat your own record, from day to day, and you are a success"

And the quote I've created (my bad if it already exist)

"Your mind can be your worst enemy, your greatest power and your best friend"

(Sorry if some or most of these was bad and a bit of a mess)

Anyway! A lot of sorry today. I actually don't know if I wanted to post this because it's a bit (or very) unusual one, especially for me to write it this long, but I'm done thinking about it so (also, I gotta thank @Waffles for his understanding. I wish I could have his level of understanding and knowledge, he's a really great man, and y'all are great too!)

I also just wanted to start this new month with some positive note ("some"…yeah right me). Because there have been a lot of chain of bad events happening, and I don't want to stay down just because of that. Anyway, if this message isn't clear enough then

I just hope that you all can forgive me, and I hope you all can accept my apology as well. Let's be better together, even during hard times!

Moment of anger can make you write hard or nasty stuff, don't stuff it , sometimes its just okey to write it out and be heard. We all have or had people that we hate their guts

 

[MistHunter]

@DunkeyKong, you are a great person, and wise words...
You are giving the example to follow.

 

[Zooey]

I am so confused reading all this.

 

[Strategist's icon Strategist Strategist]

I echo the sentiments of the rest of the board. There was no need to apologize. You gave us all something to think about. I think we can all benefit from thinking about the effect we have on our neighbors a bit more.

 

[Prism_Red]

I personally don't see what you need to apologize for? But hey, every moment is an experience, don't beat yourself up over it, from every mistake learnt, you become a better person than you are before.