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Message: [QUOTE="valosagutas, post: 209126, member: 77791"] Mhm. Everything was a part of gender role back then like even reading fictional books being an activity only girls were supposed to do, because boys were supposed to only read comics. However hobbies were even advertized in terms of gender roles when they were selling products too. But then reading comic was what nerds would do and it was the worst thing ever a kid would do so much parents would want to take their kids to a therapist lol. So things were not only about gender, belonging into a specific category of people. In their minds kids had to be an extrovert who does what the parents did when they were a kid, but then they also felt like they had to imprison their kids into their homes and force them to only study. It was a very ironic era for kids. But then video games were advertised as a hobby without it being specific for any gender. You could see girls and boys alike playing video games. Despite this and despite there were tons of video games obviously developed for video games, boys thought video games are only a hobby boys would like. I think the same. The part of being a kid is self discovery and this is necessary because you need to learn life and yourself so you can deal with your adult life because adult life is when you will need whatever you know and you have to know yourself to deal with life changing situations that's every day possibility for you. When you make a mistake as a kid you can just say "oopsie doopsie" and be forgiven after they beat you lol, when you make a mistake as an adult often it can mean facing a jail time, losing your job and the family you trying to build. In this context, I blame education system for lots of things but I don't think homeschooling is the best. School experience was very valuable to me despite how bad it was. Kids have to be let alone and allowed to make mistakes so they can learn. But it doesn't mean even when you know your kid clearly would kill himself while skating because they like the sense of speed, you should allow the kid to play with a skateboard. So the kid who died couldn't stop. For example why my mother allowed me and trusted me with dangerous stuff is just because she knows I value my health way more than most people. Still in my old age I never smoked or drinked. But I'm no health freak. I just like to take care of my body so I won't have a weakness in the realm of realistic convictions. That's why she trusted me despite I'm the youngest male of the house and my brothers are way older than me because they are too reckless. My oldest brother almost killed himself by trying to see what's inside of old box TVs. He had no idea the power of electricity would make him slam to do wall lol. And this same brother somehow stabbed a screwdriver in his hand lol. Still to this day I cannot comprehend why he could never permanently damage his body other than not so serious scars despite all the crazy stuff he did beats me. My other brother was more careful but hyperactive jumping from everywhere to everywhere and always running making me feel tired just watching him. He would always fall from his bike, because of it I could never have a bike as why my mother allowed me to use a skateboard instead. Observing the mistakes of my brothers gave me insight on what I can do and what I cannot do too, and I was so aware that my sense of balance is so bad I couldn't drive a bike and cannot get used to using rollerskating. It was something to fear for me, losing balance at high speed, and I would steal fear from it despite I'm wearing a full armor lol. However I also did crazy stuff that I analyzed I can do easily just like jumping out of the school's window to basketball hoop and getting down like a firefighter lol. It was crazy but logical act for me because it would take way too longer to get out of the building when thus I can enjoy playing faster lol. The death of this kid wasn't the reason of my fear regarding rollerskating as I had the fear way before, I just avoid whatever can hurt my body. When my body is hurt and therefore there is clear sense of danger for my body I'm known to lose myself turning into a terminator lol. [/QUOTE]

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